it's not like ive just realised this today. i really thought hard about it for like 3 months now, and i found out that i am really in love with her. but both of us are straight. i sure am straight. i love guys, i love going out with them, having fun, making out, etc. i love my friend, and im not thinking of something sexual. i just care for her so deeply. and im finding this really weird. im also scared of telling this to her because the last thing i want is for her to think im a freak and leave me. i just feel nice and special when im with her. ive had boyfriends before, so i think i know this is something real. what do i do know?
2006-12-12 17:45:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-12-12 17:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Here are my feelings. I think it is easier for women to feel "love" towards another woman because we connect on so many different levels. We can laugh about the same things, get angry about the same stuff, & cry at the same stupid movies. We connect in a way that we can never connect with a man. We are by nature "deeper". That is not to say that there are not men out there who don't feel like this. I too love my friend. We think about things almost like twins.
If you love her - great. better than great! If you know that it is not a sexual thing - no worries. Why should it run her off if you love her. Chances are she loves you too. The friendship you two are sharing is incredibly special. It does not have to mean you are gay. You said yourself there is nothing sexual. So be it! Love her! Cherrish her! Let her know that you care about her. There is not a darn thing wrong with that. Be glad that God (or what ever your higher power) has graced you with this blessing. Not everyone gets a friend that is this close. Just don't confuse Sex with Love. These are 2 different things. & there is also the love thing - there are many different types. If you know it is nothing sexual - you have won that battle of the mind! You love her because she is who she is and you connect the way you do. Why question a perfect friendship. You may be terribly lucky and grow old being best friends! What a shame that would be! You are lucky girl-friend. Be glad you have someone in your life that can mean this much to you! Enjoy! There is no need to feel bad because you have found a soul mate in a best friend!
2006-12-13 02:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by shelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just so you know yes you are straight and normal.
Love is not just sex. Having a friend who is very special and caring and makes us feel good about ourselves and brings out the best in you is priceless. They are few and far between. If you want to tell her sometime like "It's great to have a best friend like you." or something casual that would be good. She probably feels the same way about you. Just don't over talk it. You might make it awkward if you are uncomfortable talking about it and put things into words without having a real grasp of your feelings.
2006-12-13 01:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ♥ C.J. ♥ ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Someone once told me that sometimes when a person loves and cares for another person alot, they confuse that love of friendship with being IN love. I'm not sure if that is true, but that is just what I have heard.
Any how, I wouldn't worry about any thing if you do not think about doing any thing sexual with her.
Just my oppinion.
2006-12-13 01:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by flower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that your friend symbolizes everything u want in a relationship. what i am trying to say is she knows everything about u and knows how to treat u. in away u like that about her and would love to have that in a relationship to the point that u view her in that way. it's not weird as long as u know that u are straight. i wouldn't tell her unless u want to talk to her. to make things short she is your comfort zone.
2006-12-13 02:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by nates_baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times when you spend a lot of time with someone you become really attached to them. Its totally normal, that doesn't mean you're gay. I wouldn't tell her though because that'd be kind of wierd and she would probably take it the wrong way. It just means that you really care about your friend and that great!
2006-12-13 01:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Avery 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong in being in love with ur best friend?
you are very fortunate that you have some one so close. its very rare and you should think you are blessed. And i m sure she shares similar feelings towards you :-)
dont think too much and ask silly question to your self.
celebrate your relationship and enjoy it to fullest
2006-12-13 01:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by jayaa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if its not sexual in any way, than it is probably just you caring for her like a sister or relative would care for one another.
2006-12-13 01:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by JackDaniels024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love somebody like a sister without them even being family. Enjoy that bond and don't even question it.
2006-12-13 01:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
u need to see ifits like a family love or romantic love..or u might be bisexual
2006-12-13 01:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by drg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rethink that totally straight part. maybe it's more like "kinda straight but sometimes i'd kinda like to doit with this girl i love?"
2006-12-13 01:48:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋