Ok. What would you do in the following senario? Your best friend is married. They have one child and she is pregnant with their second. It is the only man shes been with. Then one night he comes on to you, tells you he wants you and you turn him down. Do you tell your friend?
2006-12-12 17:29:56 · 14 answers · asked by cassie j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not, no way, no how. It's the last thing she needs right now. Good for you for turning him down though, there's lots of women out there who would've accepted his "offer." Be there for your friend, because if her hubby is doing this to you, he's doing it to others, and she'll eventually find out. It's just not going to serve any good purpose to tell her, unless she asks you straight out, then by all means, be honest with her and don't try to hide it. What a horrible situation for him to put you in, I hope he mends his ways and remembers that he vowed to remain faithful to his wife.
2006-12-12 17:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid not only reason is because she may not believe you and turn this on you. When i was younger my best friends sister got married..on his wedding day in the pool playing Marco Polo he came up behind me and grabbed my *** and **** in the pool in front of all. No one seemed to notice because they were swimming and splashing. I told her sister and she accused me of lying. It affected my relationship with my now former best friend. I didn't make this up. But saying something just did no good. Let it slide and do nothing. Just forget about it and never ever give in to her hubby.
2006-12-13 01:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by Becky P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation with my best friend. I told her. She had a hard time with it but ...we have been best friends for life. She knows I love her and would never do anything to hurt her. If she sees you as her true friend then she will know you are trying to help her. Simply put it out there. Sit her down and say sweety, I am not trying to hurt you and I am not trying to o anything to cause you pain. I know you love your husband, but I have to be honest with you and let you knwo what has happened. I have thought this over and pondered on wether or not to tell you but I felt I had to as your friend. "He hit on me or whatever he did blah blah." I can understand if you need some time to take this in and I will even understand if you choose not to believe me. But I had to warn you because I think it is horribly wrong and disgusting and Id hope you would do th same for me.
2006-12-13 02:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No and NO!!
First off hes a pig and i hope you physically hurt this guy for trying. She isnt going to want to hear it in her pregnant state and chances are she wont believe you. My best freind since 8th grade hasnt spoken to me to this day for telling her the same thing. I would be hostile as hell towards him though when shes not around and make him squirm. Its not your responsibility to tell her. She will figure it out on her own. poor girl.
2006-12-13 02:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by chcknbizkit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those you're damned if you do...you're damned if you don't scenarios. As a best-friend you want to tell her that her husband is making advances at you, but then she could take it the wrong way(she is pregnant and hormonal). If you don't tell her...who's to say he's not making advances at other women. Do what you think is right....although it would be devastating either way.
2006-12-13 01:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by jade_143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree she may not believe you. So...get a tape recorder, hide it and record your converstation with him regarding his actions. Basically confront him. She will have no choice to believe you then... He may be cheat on her and could bring her home some sort of STD and maybe even to the BABY!!! How could you live with yourself knowing you have this information and you didn't tell her? Wouldn't you want to know?
2006-12-13 01:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by syntagma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Absolutely not.
She will blame you and turn on you.
Nothing good will come of it.
She will learn how he is acting soon enough.
Do not get involved other than for support.
2006-12-13 01:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yea, even if you get a bad deal like he calls you a liar and she believes it. You will have done the right thing.
2006-12-13 01:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by jwplaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Although she is your friend she may not believe you. I think that you should tell the husband that you will give him 24 hours to tell her, himself, or you will tell her.
2006-12-13 01:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, stay away from that mess! And never - I mean NEVER! - be alone with that creep for a second again.
2006-12-13 01:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by jello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋