My wife and I have recently decided to geta divorce,it's only been a week.I suspeceted her of cheating but she denied it,said it was just friends.I'm really ok with the seperation,she hasn't been there for me for quite some time now,and I don't want to spend my life being miserable.But she is already exchanging lovey dovey emails with this guy telling him how much he makes her happy and exchanging phone converstaions with him in the presence of me and my daughter.It's almost like she's rubbing it in my face,but then in turns she acts nice to me and says how much she wants us to get along and be friends.Is she just trying to push my buttons,or is she just a F*N whore like the rest of the women around here??????Should i be pissed or should i ignore her?What should i do?
2006-12-12 17:25:45 · 18 answers · asked by Uncertain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thing is we agreed to stay together until after christmas for the sake of our children having one last christmas together as a family.It was a mutual split,I'm really glad it's over.The thing is she could atleast hold off on her new relationship until christmas passes.I've been talking to another girl for a month,but i'm keeping it quiet until we get everything seperated.I just don't think I'm asking to much of her to wait ,or not even wait,just keep it quiet.
2006-12-12 17:35:32 · update #1
I know I haven't been the best husband in the world,but she hasn't been the best wife either.The last 2 years I've worked all first shift,and she's worked all 2nd and 3rd shift.I take care of the kids while she's at work and when i get home she sleeps before work.The man she is dating talking to whatever is a co worker who has been working with her for 4 months everynight she works.She tells me i wasn't there for her emotionally and he was,I'm lucky to spend one night a week with her.I know i wasn't perfect and coulda did things better,but it takes 2 to make a marriage work............no more rambling,tired of racking my brain over it,thanks for all the answers you'll have been very helpful.
2006-12-12 17:53:47 · update #2
Rent a wood chipper.
2006-12-12 17:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 How old is your daughter? Will your seperation effect her?
#2 Y should you be pissed off or ignore her. Have you really talk to your wife seriously over this issue?
If divorce is the only way to resolve your problem, leave some consideration to your daughter feelings. She'll be the innocent victim of your failed marriage.
Consider carefully before you made the decision.
Good Luck! Happy Holiday!
2006-12-13 01:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every story has 2 sides, however if what you say is true, it sounds like she is moving on. Private, personal freinds of the opposite sex are usually not as innocent as the spouse would have you believe. Don't let her ruin your life with negativity. Find your own happiness, for the right reasons, ( not for revenge ) and let her realize what she has lost in her own time, when her homewrecker freind makes new freinds and leaves her the way she has done to you. It sounds like she is trying to keep the door open in case it doesn't work out, so be careful not to be taken advantage of. Good luck.
2006-12-13 01:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by barbara b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like her mind was made up a long time ago. She's into this new guy.
Maybe she's being nice to b/c she really does want you to get along. Or maybe it's b/c she doesn't want to get screwed in the divorce settlement. Either way, you need to speak to your lawyer about what you can do to help yourself. If you can prove that she's cheating this early, maybe it will help your case. Or even better, hurt hers.
Sorry this happened to you.
Try and have a happy holidays for your daughter.
Good luck
2006-12-13 01:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely cheated on you... giving herself emotionally to another man, even if she didn't sleep with him, is cheating. Get the divorce, and go for full custody of your daughter in order to protect her. She doesn't need to be living with her mom and the string of boyfriends that will come traipsing through her life... especially when some of them will be more interested in your daughter than your ex wife. You have my sympathy, you sound like a decent man.
2006-12-13 01:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, not ALL women are like her. If that's all you are finding, then you are looking in the wrong places.
Second, she may be saying she wants to stay friends for your daughter's sake.
Third, I imagine that she is rubbing this in your face. I did this with my ex for awhile after we split up. But, I got tired of it and stopped. It does wear off after awhile. BUT, I did it because my ex was very abusive to me for 20 yhears and I was sick and tired of it. I wanted to rub it in that I could do very well without him, no matter what he said or thought. But, as for your wife, I think she is rubbing it in that she has someone new in her life just to tick you off.
Just ignore her, what she says and does. Plus, this is a new, fresh break up, so of course she is probably going to be doing these things. Like I said, just ignore her. She will get tired of being ignored and will give up.
2006-12-13 01:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound bitter and miserable. Though I don't condone cheating, I'm sure being married to you has been no picnic and she had to find emotional support somewhere else. Will your daughter be a whore when she grows up, since you assume all "women around here" are?
2006-12-13 01:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are toxic together, so its not a failed marriage it’s a successful divorce in the making. its for the best. get out of that house if you two are at it. its bad for your child, not 'best' because you are there for christmas...not like that its not.
its a shame she cant refrain while your still there, because that would be the civil thing to do. not all women are like that, and if you think that, its just going to consume you.
let it go. just love and take care of your daughter, (no bad mouthing their mama to your daughter either! [some daddys do, and its BAD for kids]).
2006-12-13 02:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count down the days until after Christmas. It's just a matter of time before you begin your new life without all this mess.
2006-12-13 02:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has moved on , why cant you? let her do what she wants , you no longer have no say, it is over. focus on your daughter and yourself. if you find true love then you do. if you find a friend then cool. it didnt work out with her then let it go. she may be a whore but you are not with her and good thing you left her before you could have any more kids, be here friend for your daughter but thats it.
2006-12-13 01:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋