Pl do help help help me..frank suggestions..?
i have been in love with a person since 4yrs and we used to be very loving..
but then he started to take "over care"(thts wht he says)on me and even till today never allows me to meet friends or even talk on phone to others.i ought to inform everything...
all thse yrs,i got used to it,but once i promised him i will be the girl as u wish to be..unable to see his sadness...may be i thought i could come down a bit..
since then we didnt hav any prob,though i could feeel the decreasing love..
now,at present,he still more decreased the ways of showing love...
he feels i dont love him enough..
there is no more passion and love as it was before..i did really love to have it all over again..by my man doesnt seem to understand and each time i say so,he keeps reducing love.
pl give me some tips..i m really getting depressed..Pl tell me HOW DO I MAKE HIM FEEL MY LOVE?we stay far from each other..only phone..
NO MEAN COMMENTS PL..
2006-12-12 17:10:53 · 14 answers · asked by For peace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he says,u urself spoiled the relationship..
i m even in the engineeering college he wanted me to join in..
is nt there any way of making him feel ok??i just thought of throwing a stone...if it wont work,i hav no other go..
2006-12-12 17:38:04 · update #1
Sister,
you get love only once in life .I understand your Problem , but beefore taking any decision consider one thing that he loves you so much that he dont wnat to share you in any way.
it is good that you are not so unlucky as me as the Girl whom i love Dont love me at all . but i am still waiting for her for the past 209 days.
You know why marriages are made so that whether the conditions are healthy or not but you have to spend life with eachother living your life happily by treating other partner as the part of your soul.It is the only Diference between Live-in and Marriage.Don let him Go and make him understand that whatever problem you have you will share with him first.After all You have spend Good times with each other also.
2006-12-12 17:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to say that it makes me sad to hear of anyone in your situaiton and I hope that with all the responses you get, you will find answers that bring you peace...I am glad that you asked people not to respond with "mean" answers, as I believe people should be sensitive to others personal feelings...all that being said, I offer my thoughts on your situation and hope to not sound like I am being critical, just very honest and direct...since I don't know you and cannot casually meet to discuss this, I feel that this "online" forum is not a place to waste time due to the nature of your problem...It seems like you really care for this guy...I can feel it in your words,,,you are a very caring and sensitive person...unfortunately, some people mistake a gentle loving honest person for one who is weak, and therefore, "take over", manipiulate them in ways that are degrading to the point of depression, low self esteem, and loss of self worth and respect...ever heard the song "Only The Strong Survive"?...love is great and being "in love" with someone is very special...it makes me angry sometimes and sad other times when a person of good character and loyal to another is taken advatage of and made to feel like they just can't give enough...what should you do, cut your heart out and place it on a silver platter?...the reality of it all is that although you love the guy, apparently he does not know how to apprecaite you or he just does not care enough to treat you like a human being with true love which encompases respect and trust...the fact that he will not allow you to have friends, is a sign that he is an insecure person...in reality the one who has something hide is always the one who puts restrictions on the other...think about it...how is it that he has these feelings of needing to exercice "over care" with you...I ask you to open your eyes and take some time to look at your relationship from a different perspective...what do you know about him when he is away from you?...where does he go?...who is he with?...is he telling you the truth?...will you ever know since he has restricted you from finding out by not letting you have "outside communications"...this may be painful for you to accept, but why should you be like a thirsty dog salivating at the mouth and he be holding the water bowl close enough for you so see but far enough for you to be unable to reach...honestly...you need to ask yourself if this guy is even good enough for you...and yes, you are deserving of a good and healthy relationship and not have to live in an abusive one where you could end up a miserable lonely person later in life, still not knowing "where he is"....I hope this helps you, and I wish you the best....Peace.
2006-12-12 17:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I am not sure what your story is, but I think you need to bail on this dude. It sounds like you are afraid if you lose him, you are never going to meet another like him again. I dated a great girl once and thought the same as you do. It hurt when we broke up (and I dragged it out a long time), but we are both better people now. I would say walk away now (reread what you wrote, you are miserable with this person). Turn your attention to what you love to do (Writing, sports, work, school, reading, etc). Once you get back on your feet, believe me, you will meet someone again. Good luck bud.
2006-12-12 17:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You are being abused.
2. You need your freedom
3. Either he needs to respect your freedom or you need a new guy
4. Plenty more fish in the sea, and most men far better personality.
5. No form of assurance is going to make up for this guys insecurity.
6. It is not your responsibility to make him trust you provided you have never done anything wrong to betray that trust
7. Similar answer to the last time you asked this question
2006-12-12 17:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by bumbass2003 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This type of person nevers changes for good, he might manage to look like he cares for your thoughts but it won't last. I doubt you will ever be truly happy with this person. Time to try and forget him and move on, it may be a hard decission but it will never get any easier and I don't see a loving relationship with him.
2006-12-12 17:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think better of yourself and Ditch The Jerk. Why do you want him to feel your love since he is unable to give you any love. There is someone out there who will love you for you.
2006-12-12 17:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by queendebadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. It sounds like you are doing all the work in this relationship. Find someone who loves you for you, and is not trying to change you.
2006-12-12 17:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thing you should leave him. It good that you love him, but no one has the right to tell you what you can do, how you should do it, and when and where you can do things. You are your own boss.
Happy Holidays, and good luck.
2006-12-12 17:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by hih 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety this is a control freak! Sometimes these types can get abusive. I would leave. nothing will please him and ti will only get worse for you. You have to leave it is the nly solution to your problem. It will only get worse with time .
2006-12-12 17:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answered this ? once already not my fault that u didn't like my answer. but its still the same. u need to ditch that control freak.
2006-12-12 17:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by lilmisspriss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋