my friend is married but not happy.and keeps on giving in to temptations.i have told it is not right but they say u get life only once so enjoy.and dont sit and broud for what u not getting from ur spouse .look for it in someone else and b happy.what do u guys have to say?but i want to bring this to ur notice dat my friend has gone through very many many tough times and feel sad too.
2006-12-12 16:44:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BE SEXY
2006-12-16 16:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope by "guys" you didn't mean that only men could answer. It is wrong because when you marry someone you take vows that in most cases actually state that you will be "forsaking all others". Also when you marry someone you are telling the whole world that you found "the one" not "the one for now until I find someone more interesting that will put out more".
Cheating makes a mockery of the institution of marriage, their spouse and whether they want to admit it or not, themselves. If a married, or even seriously involved person, is so unhappy as to look for fulfillment on the side they should either invest that energy in fixing the problem or invest it in ending the relationship. Adding addtional people to the problem is never the right answer and only makes things worse for all parties.
2006-12-13 00:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by sarcasm_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes _ marriages are made in heaven is not applicable to everyone. As u tend to spent more time with ur partner things tend to get boring. However it depends on the individual, both parties should give in their effort to make marriage work. There should be ample breathing space and one should accept flaws as part of human nature and try to work on the relationship. I have seen people in their old age who are so in love with each other n it feels so good just watching them. It can happen to people if u have the patience, understanding n respect for each other and believe me it Will be the most fulfilling life. Otherwise if things cannot work out at all try talking it out with your partner and do what is best. The most important thing in marriage is truth n trust or else whats the point of cheating behind ur spouse back. There nothing like an honest open talk
2006-12-13 01:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not God; I am not the one to decide if something is bad or not. It is as it is and I just have to accept it. My wife told me that she just loves the freedom to do whatever she wants when ever she wants. She says that she feels like a 16-year old teenager again; going out the the movies, parties, etc, etc. How could I be so cruel and crush her happiness by putting limitations on her at a time like this. I'm happy that she's feeling born again and that makes me happy too. I just hope she doesn't bring home some STD that makes my prick fall off, that's all.
In order to ensure my safety, I've had her start on this new HPV vaccination called "GARDASIL" (to protect her health) and I make sure she carries condoms whenever she goes out with her friends for a night on the town.
This way I get my safety and security, and she gets her safety and security as well as her happiness and freedom. I think that's a win-win situation. I know that my father was a real controlling freak who made my mother's life hell and I definitely don't want to be the same.
I'm happy, she's happy, so I don't see why its bad for her to give in to her temptations. (I've never had any temptations or opportunities to cheat myself so I really don't know how I would behave in that situation).
2006-12-13 01:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by honesty_counts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not satistified with your spouse,get it taken care of. Your little friend should think about what HE or SHE would feel like if their spouse was doing the same thing to them. If they don't wanna be married,then they need to do somehing about it besides cheating and bringing GOD knows what home. Should've thought of that while they were getting maried in the first place. Most people think marriage is sacred you know!
2006-12-13 00:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ebony M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you want to bring this to our notice dat yout friend has gone through very many many tough times and feel sad too. This is why it is considered bad to give in to tempetations after I am married (but I am not satisfied with your spouse)
2006-12-13 01:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough times is just an excuse in my opinion. if this guy really is feeliong restraint from being "happy" then he should just leave the spouse through divorce or seperation. it would be easier for the woman. the victim here is truly the spouse and not the guy. no matter what "tough" times he's been through, the guy is just finding an outlet and it just so happens temptation is his, and that is not necessarily because of his past, but just because he's unhappy.
2006-12-13 01:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the whole point of marriage is monogamy. What your friend is doing is reaping the rewards of marriage while abandoning his obligations and responsibilities. Sadness is never an excuse to do something so hurtful to another person. If your friend is unhappy then he should work to solve the issue, or end the marriage.
2006-12-13 00:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by jwplaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So because he is sad, he has the right to bring pain and sadness into someone elses life? He made a commitment to his wife, if things are not satifactory they should work it out, or they should divorce so he is free to find happiness elsewhere. By giving into temptations he is purposefully doing things that will hurt his wife.
2006-12-13 00:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short so enjoy to hilt ( my lines too... lol) it does not mean that you can cheat on your spouse. If this was the thought of your friend he should not have spoiled another human beings life !!!! by making him/her a prisoner of the society by marrying.
Just make your friend understand that the spouse would also have thoughts of happiness and would want secure family life.... So i think that your friend needs to change........
2006-12-13 01:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if getting tempted, gives him a relief from his burdens in life, then this is the way of finding temporary life for him. I assure u my friend, that he is not happy from heart even with these temptations, its only that he's finding some relaxation in it. Remember, we are human and all human have a tendency to tilt thr where he finds love......if u care for him, then let him find his own path and believe me, its not long b4 he wil stop being tempted too.
2006-12-13 02:20:47 · answer #11 · answered by shibs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋