2006-12-12 16:43:50 · 8 answers · asked by Josephene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a parent, you need to strike a balance between the child's feelings/opinions and what is right for the child. While we all like to be our children's best friends, we also need to be aware we are their carers and protectors. - and we all know in theory this is a lot easier than when you put it in practice.
At the end of the day, you just have to use your best adult judgement and hope you create an environment for your child that helps them to feel safe. You want them to be able to trust your decisions even when they don't like what you're saying. Hopefully this will create an atmosphere where they will feel comfortable about talking to you about their opinions and feelings as they get older.
2006-12-12 18:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the parents. I don't think most are considerate of their children's feelings at all. Most will just say "I'm the parent, your the child, my decision" I hear things like that a lot when I'm out, like at the mall or grocery, etc. And yes I am a parent of adult children, 4 to be exact.
2006-12-12 16:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We should be very careful in the way we bring up children. There is nothing in children so finely felt and finely perceived. We should give ample time to children help them to open up to us so that they will not get into the habit of leaning on their friends for advice and end up in mess. Children should be given the oppurtunity to voice out their opinion and later on you as a parent shouldtry to go indepth on what ground your child is implying his or her point. Let your child learn the responsibility of an adult and share your problems. This will help on his/her view about life.
2006-12-12 18:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on parent to parent... in my opinion joint families provide more concern to children... now a days children are given lot of considerations but still there are ways by which they are spoiled by these considerations itself
2006-12-12 17:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Meena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that children only have a few years experience. Everything for them is new...including feelings. And they have feelings about everything. Honor those feelings...they are real for the children. Because you don't understand how the kids feel, or don't agree with how they feel, remember their feelings are real and honest for them...they're not your feelings, they're the kids feelings. The same is true about opinions. Kids' opinions are based on their limited knowledge. Evaluate them from the kids viewpoint. Not yours. Honoring children's feelings and opinions doesn't mean you have to live your life according to them...but you do have to respect them as honest.
2006-12-12 17:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I listen to my kids all the time. Half the stuff they say is jibber jabber but I want them o know they can be able to tell me things and come to me with problems later in their lives. What I can't stand is parents who want to be "friends" with their kids. I'll be friendly to them, but I have my own friends and I hope they have their own. Parents like that are losers.
2006-12-12 16:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you r too friendly they take you for granted .you should be a parent first when they are in their teens i think u should be like a friend looking after their needs and giving advice when asked for.we should be around to know whats going on in their life.
2006-12-12 21:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to listen to them the child looks up to you they are only learning and its your responsibility to teach them correctly
2006-12-12 16:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by sportlvr45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋