I have been in this relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We now have a 18 mo. old child together. All in all, it is a very unhealthy relationship. I know he is only in this for our child, and really does not want to be in this relationship, and has said it is best for our child that we make it work (yet, he has said he doesn't want to marry me). We currently live together, but is it time to leave?...and what's the best way to do so??
2006-12-12 16:31:06 · 9 answers · asked by april 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your child will notice this and will grow up to learn that it is proper to be in a 'very unhealthy relationship'. I would say you'd be better apart and giving your attention and love focused and real rather than over a level of faking through the 'staying together for the child. At 18 months, it most likely would have a lot less effect on the adult life than it will say at 5 or 7 when there is a concept of what's going on... you can try to stick it out, but, really, if it's that unhealthy, will it be possible?
2006-12-12 16:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out before it is to late not just for you but for your child too. Your child will sense the negative relationship between mommy and daddy, so what is the point of staying together. The longer you stay the harder it will be to leave him.
He has already stated that he does not want to marry you, what more proof do you need.
Start a fresh life, enjoy the baby, and someday you will meet a guy who deserves you and your baby. Good Luck and Happy Holidays
2006-12-12 16:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's time. The child is old enough to know who it's father is, and it needs to have it around, but it's not necessary for him to be there all the time. My best friend is going through the exact thing, but he's married, and the kid isn't biologically his. He is getting a divorce and you should split too. It won't be healty for the child to have an unloving home.
2006-12-12 16:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by steeldawg87 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this should have been thought about before you brought a child into the world, now the child faces a future of living in a broken home or an unhappy one, you figure out which one to give to your child
2006-12-12 17:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is time to leave. and marrying this man for the sake of your child would be a disaster. you will feel trapped and it will be even harder to leave. kids sense unhappiness. get out while there are few strings attached and start over with someone who cares about YOU and your child.
2006-12-12 16:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,, i thought you were my wife for a moment,,i am in the same predictament but i dont want to marry her because i dont feel that she has lived her own life enough,,as for your case...if both of you feel that you are only there for the child,,then do so in a way that alows you both to date and be together for the child mabe not emotionally ,but physically without the feelings for one another make peace as i am trying to do and i hope you find it soon... good luck
2006-12-12 16:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET COUNSELING. If not to work things out and communicate better.. at least to work things out for the child in the future.
If he's in it for the child he can't be all bad. You guys can work things out to at least have an amicable break up. .. or not.. depending on how you guys learn to talk to eachother. I've been to counseling with a partner.. it's worth it.
2006-12-12 16:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's no point of staying with someone who doesn't love you. if you feel like leaving then do it, find someone else and start a new life. but for your child, i think you better talk to him about raising your kid, make sure he'll take part of the responsibility. gd luck.
2006-12-12 16:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone can tell you to leave...but you have made a baby and there are alot more important things than you or your BF....your baby is more important!!
2006-12-12 16:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jay J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋