My ex owes me alot of money, with no contract signed, how can I go about getting money back.?

Answer 1

If you have a proof, you can go to the court !!!

Answer 2

Tell him you're going to take him to Judge Judy. She doesn't look very kindly on men who take unscrupulous advantage of their girlfriends. You'll need some kind of proof that you had this money and that it was withdrawn from your account at some point during the relationship and you'll have to try (or usually she can get them to admit) that they did take money from you for whatever reason, and that's half the battle, right there, because she detests what she calls "con artists". However, this could backfire on you, too, because many times she tells the lending party that she should have known better than to loan money to someone she's only dating - especially without a promissory note or repayment contract or agreement. She often says that's the price the girl will have to pay to learn this sad life lesson. Good luck!

Answer 3

Try the small Claims tribunal .. Contract matters are an arkward area .. but if you can prove that there was more than a social agreement between the two of you eg .. if you have been living together as de facto partners .. you may be able to recover something. Without any proof or parties to back you up it may be that you just have to learn from this experience.

Answer 4

It does not matter if there is no contract signed. Point is, he borrowed money from you on the understanding that he would pay you in return. There are a few complications that you need to observe here:
(i) people may infer that there is no intention to create legal relations between you and your ex (judging from your then relationship with your ex). However, if a LOT of money is involved, then, surely there is some form of understanding that he will return.

(ii) you need witnesses... have you mentioned lending money to your ex to other parties? is your ex in any position of having that sum of money to do whatever that he's borrowed money from you for?

The above are legal observations.

You may of course see him in person highlighting the fact that you would take this matter to the court, if need be (but you have to be certain of the strength of your case, i.e. you must at least be aware of the above observations (i) and (ii)). If he is no position to be able to repay, ask for payment by instalments. It will be difficult. Does he have any property, etc. that you may attach his debt on?

Answer 5

Hi,

Without something in writing like a promissory note or a divorce settlement you are just OUT OF LUCK unless he has a visit from the "Ghost of Doing The Right Thing".

If you were married talk to an attorney, if you were just "together" you just got SLICKED.

Now, if you made major purchases together (house, car, furniture) and you are on the loan JOINTLY then you have a leg to stand on in court for loan default.

If you just gave him money then just figure that YOU PAID for a good time for as long as it lasted and get on with it.

Later,
J

Answer 6

You have STD - Sexually transmitted debt. If you can prove with reciepts etc then see a lawyer. This is just one of lifes lessons. Love and money don't mix. In future be sure to be more careful with your money. There are some great articles in womens money sites about STD's and they may even have some ideas on how to recoup some of your money.

Answer 7

the documents given to the solicitor proves that money was coming from your parents. and that both of you were party to it. As you say - the direct debit shows an intent to repay it AND how much ( i.e 11 repayments @ whatever it was /repayment). THAT constitutes an acknowledgement that a debt existed AND how much. so its not necessary to have a written agreement check with a solicitor then issue a claim in small claims (And dont forget to add any solicitors fees and small claims cost to the amount you are claiming)

Answer 8

You can sue for the money, as long as you have documentation for the amounts and can prove that giving the money was not a "gift" but there was an expectation of reimbursement at some point.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, you have probably just learned a very expensive lesson. MANY of us have been through this. Even with a signed contract you may or may not ever get it back.

Sometimes you just have to take your losses and move on.

Answer 10

It's probably not going to happen. He can claim you just gave him money because you loved him.

Answer 11

With no proof it'll be difficult. First ask him and if he says no then it's your word against his. Good luck.