how much would it cost, i need to see him, he has cancer!?

Question

i just found out that my dad has cancer, and i really want to go see him for christmas. i have not seen nim in many many many years. but due to no insurance, and him having to pay for his treatments, hee does not have the money to get me up there. does ne one know how much it would cost to get from western washington, to san bernadino california and back. driving???? would i need to stop at a hotel???
also, i have not yet told him that i am pregnant, and now im scared that it will make everything worse because he has cancer now and ya. i dont know what to do. (he thinks im a virgin)

Answer 1

Below is the best thing for trips with your car. You put in your starting point and destination. CA locations listed are LA, Palm Springs, San Diego, Yosemite National Park, & San Francisco. Put in the city that's closest to you. For WA you can choose Seattle, Spokane, and Olympic National Park. You also need to know the make, model, and year of the vehical you will be driving.

Once you have all that info put into the computer, it will tell you how many miles, how many gallons of gas, and how much it will roughly cost for either one-way or round-trip.

My brother used this site when he and his family took the RV from Missouri to Florida. It was pretty accurate. Budget for a little more than it says on here, because you never know when the more expensive gas station will come along.

And I wouldn't worry about him freaking out about you being pregnant. Even though you haven't seen him in many years, I'm sure he'll be thrilled to know he's going to be a Grandpa!!

Good Luck and Congrats!!!

Answer 2

You can get a great deal on Southwest.com or orbitz.com. If you'd like to drive, you can actually go to Yahoo Maps and it will tell you exactly how long it will take and how many miles you will have to drive. I did this when I moved across the country. Also, like someone mentioned before, you can ask for help if you need money. It might be cheaper to fly. You might save some money if you go before Christmas.

I can understand why you'd be concerned about your pregnancy, but you're dad is battling for his life right now, you're pregnancy will not seem like a problem. In fact, I think he'll be more determined to fight this cancer if he gives himself the goal of seeing his grandchild.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Mapquest says it is 1389.90 from Spokane, WA to San Bernadino Peak, CA. (not knowing your starting point, had to guess or find something close.) It also says it is 19 hours and 45 min. So, you can drive it in one day but, it'll be one long day...........Otherwise, its easier if done in two days or having a second driver.
If you take 1389.90 and divide by how much your vehicle gets in miles to the gallon. Lets assume you get 30 miles to the gallon on freeway so, 1389.90 divided by 30= 46.33 gallons of gas is what you'll need. Assuming you have a 15 gallon tank, you can assume it'll take at least 3+ tanks to get there. Assuming gas is 2.20 a gallon, you are looking at about $102.00 one way (taking 46.33 multiplying by 2.20). So, you are looking at about 210.00 in gas, will you be bringing your food in cooler? or will you be eating at McDonalds? or other restaurants? (that depends on you.) Will you be sleeping in hotels/motels? or in car? will you drive straight thru? I'd also be looking at how mapquest is routing you. This way is thru Utah... how's the road/weather down there right now?


Be honest with him about your situation. He's a smart man, I'm sure, and will realize your situation, and would be good to get it opened up to him.


(I just realized you said western Washington, using Seattle as a starting point, same theory as above 1213.15 miles 18 hr 49 min, looking at about 91.00 one way still using same numbers as above 30 mpg and 2.20 price per gallon, so, still about 200.00 in gas)

Answer 4

Talk to your dad from your heart; you are bringing news that though may not be the best of circumstances, will be a blessing and give him a reason to fight this disease.

Sometimes airlines will give folks a break on their ticket in emergency situations, so it wouldn't hurt to ask.

Things get put on our hearts because they are the right thing to do; I don't know your beliefs, but I would hand this whole thing over to whomever steers your ship and then really try to be receptive to what you need to do.

Sending best wishes for you to be surrounded with complete peace and strength.

Answer 5

I'd mapquest it and see how much you can travel in one day by car (it's cheaper than flying in most cases!). You would most likely need to rest in a motel both ways. I recommend traveling with someone to keep you alert. I would tell dad before you get there....you don't want him to overreact when you're there. It would be like "oh, well, thanks for visiting me, but why didn't you tell me this sooner?" It might not be the reaction you want to see if you tell him later in person. Spill the beans now. And by the way, good for you to go see him!

Answer 6

well it depends on how many miles that is and how much it would cost for the hotel. i'm sure it would be cheaper to fly. plus depnding on your age i'm sure he doesn't think you are a virgin. my dad has throat cancer. so i know how you feel. but my dad was happy to hear he was finall gonna be a grandfather ... he has 6 kids.

Answer 7

you should definetly tell him that you're pregnant, unless you truly believe it would in fact make things worse. go to maps.google.com to find out how many miles it is there and back, and it should tell you about how long it will take to get there.

Answer 8

if you don't have the money, go to your church or a church and tell them the situation that your in, they might be able to help you or tell you where you could go..don't be scared to tell your father. he should know. plus he is sick and this will keep his mind off from being sick. good luck