well i am only 14 years old and i want to have a baby but i dont want to have one until i know that my body will be able to support the baby until it is born..so i do have a period and i have had one since i was 12 and i will be 15 next month and i am not over or under weight..so can i support the baby weight?
2006-12-12 15:49:08 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Depend on you, some people are. You need to learn about women in your family and how they grown during that nine months, but really you may be able to physical support the childd but finacally and mentally maybe not so much.
2006-12-12 23:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15, you have a whole life ahead of you to learn about who you are before you bring a baby into your life. Your education is important and a baby would mostly bring it to a stop. In the years between 15 and 24 you change more than you can imagine.
The things that are important to you now will mean nothing when you are in your 20's and allowing your 15 year old self to make permanent changes to your whole life is a dangerous thing to do. Think about the bands and clothes you couldn't live without just two years ago when you were 12, I'll bet when you look back on those things, you cringe a bit about how immature your 12 year old self was. That's how you'll feel in two more years about your 15 year old self and a few years after that about your 18 year old self.... Unless you have a baby because then, the searching, experimenting, learning, growing part of your life that is so important will be swallowed up by your child.
That's not to say that people who accidentally get pregnant at 15 can't be wonderful mom's but to be a really good mother, you have to give yourself time to have your own life before you start caring for another :)
Don't make a decision today that will change your life so drastically hon. Give yourself a chance to have fun because that baby will be there in your heart waiting for you when you get older.
Some things you can do while you're still just thinking of having a baby:
-Please go and volunteer for a few days at a shelter for new young moms (calling anyone in social services will point you in the right direction) and talk to people who were very young when they had their children.
-Talk to women who are now over 20 who had kids when they were kids and they'll almost all tell you to wait and they'll have very good reasons why.
-this is a great time to get a kitten or puppy. That will help satisfy the urge for a new life and will give you the love you might be looking for.
2006-12-13 00:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you may be able to support the weight of a baby, but not the giving birth part of it. Only a Doc could tell you that.
At 14, you really need to think hard about this, babies cost money and consume much time. Although you seem mature, even adults cannot handle most of it, so please wait until you are older to have a child.
Concentrate on school and give it a few more years, trust me, you will be glad you did.
2006-12-13 06:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your body will support the baby, but the real questions here are: HOW WILL YOU SUPPORT THE BABY? WILL YOU WORK? WHO'S GONNA BABYSIT? WHERE WILL YOU LIVE? you need to think things twice, im sure you like to go to the mall with your friends or talk on the phone or party.. now.. if you had a baby.. you would have to make sure the baby is well fed, he's in good hands.. and all that mommy stuff! right now the only thing you should be thinking about is where should you go shoppin, who will you text, call, visit. not a baby!
2006-12-13 05:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anna T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be able to support the baby but it may not be very healthy for your body just because of your young age. Your body is still developing and being pregnant is ALOT for your body.
My suggestion would be that you wait a few years to have a baby. You are so young and it would be for the best for you to wait. I know how it is to want a baby so much but it would be for the best for you to wait until you are older, out of school, and have someone that you really want to have a family with. It is a big responsibility to raise a child and you don't want that so soon in your life.
Good luck with your decisions.
2006-12-12 23:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by kelley2387 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby will mean, aside from all the physical pain:
Being woken up once an hour all night, every night.
Being up to your elbows in human crap from changing diapers four times a day.
Being vomited on.
Being screamed at.
Spending all the money you could possibly have and then some, on the just the baby.
Having no friends, no lovers, no school, no job (keep in mind you need more money than you could possibly get in a job for a 15 year old just to pay for the baby), no life, no parties, no tv, no movies, no vacation.
Oh, and if you don't put the kid up for adoption you'll have to keep it for EIGHTEEN YEARS.
That's right, longer than you have existed.
Your whole life over again and then some, dedicated to the kid.
My suggestion: get a puppy.
2006-12-13 08:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still growing up. Just because you assume that you had a period and not underweight doesn't mean that you stopped growing. Live your teenage years to the best because you have one chance to be a teen. Stop trying to rush and grow up too fast. Who will support you and the baby? Who will take care of it when you are at school? Who will take care of a crying baby all night? How will you make money and get a job without depending on your relatives all the time? Not so easy to raise a child.
2006-12-13 01:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know at 15, you are very close to being an adult. But you aren't quite there yet. Yeah, a glib anwer would be wait until you are 30 and married - which really ain't a bad idea.
If you look at history, you will see girls getting married at 12 or 13, but not having living children until 18. Infant mortality was high. Even mom was at risk of dying in childbirth. My own grandmother was married at 13. In her later years, my wife interviewed her to learn of her early life. While she did get married at 13, she was a virgin until 17 when my grandfather took her for the first time. All but one of her children survived. That one died of polio at 6.
What you need to do is examine why you want a baby. You are obviously old enough to do your own research online. Go to places like http://www.ripnroll.com/teenpregnancy.htm to see some of the consequences of teen pregnancy. Lots of other sites will help you see the reasons to wait until at least 18 for the sake of you and your baby(s).
If after you learn more, you still are determined to get pregnant, see a doctor first. They may try to discourage you, but she will also help you be as healthy for you and the baby as possible.
2006-12-13 00:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to have a baby. You're 14. You're a teenager. You cannot give a child the support it needs to grow. It's hard enough to be a parent when you're in your 20s or 30s, let alone when you're just starting high school. Please wait until you're in a position that will allow this child to have a good, healthy start. (I mean wait until you have a steady job, live on you're living on your own, and there is a father in the picture.) Good luck, and I hope you take my advice.
2006-12-13 00:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by Darko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your body is probably able to physically support a baby. But, how are you going to support a baby financially at 15?????
2006-12-12 23:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by klynnr_1981 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋