We were planning to get married after he gets home from iraq after 1year,unfortunatly I found out he cheated on me before he left,I dont want to mention it while he is in the war.because I dont want him to get stressed out.but at the same time I am living with the hurt and I have to wait on him for 1 year.and he could even be cheating again with the females overthere to.what a nerv reck for me should I tell him or wait on him for a whole year
2006-12-12 15:49:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, here is the bottom line on your question. If he was in the Guard and was called to service, you may want to wait for him, that's a decision only you can make. But if he quit what he was doing with you and all to go murder Iraqi's , dump him now , he's a loser
2006-12-12 16:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very kind to not mention it to him while he's over there.
This is my advice:
Live your life as you want to... see who you want to....
Don't make his life more miserable in saying anything to him.
When he comes home you will know what you should do.
I can't judge him because I don't even know what your relationship is... or how the cheating came about.
I just know that cheating isn't a good thing and you should just deal with your life on your own terms while he is away and then confront him when he returns (if you still see him in your future).
Good luck. Nice and courageous of you to not mention things.. few would have that kind of heart.
2006-12-12 16:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God i know how you feel. My husband is in iraq, a serial cheat, and people tell me to leave him but I can't bring myself to leave him while he's there for the exact same reason - he's at war, dodging bombs and god knows what else. All I offer you is understanding at this point in time, as I dont have the answer myself.
2006-12-12 16:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lochie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention it to him immediately. You owe him nothing. Confront him about it. It would be ideal to be able to talk to him face to face about this, but because of the situation you can't. That doesn't mean you should hold this inside you. There is NO good time to bring up this kind of stuff. Don't wait any longer, you will regret it and come to resent him.
2006-12-12 16:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to tell him with out him gettin mad. because while u carrying this it's stressing you out. And nobody needs to be stressed out when they didn't do anything wrong. So the choice is up to you, but i would rather tell him now, than to hold on to the pain. Yea your right he could be cheating, but the only way to know is to ask. But in the end only time will tell.
2006-12-12 16:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the guy is fighting for his life and our country and you want to break it off.are you crazy lady?if you have any kind of heart you will wait til he gets home.
if you were fighting like he is how would you feel if he broke up with you while you were there fighting to keep yourself alive?if you want to go kick around with some other guy while he's away well go for it,,i wouldn't but i wouldn't tell him jack til he came home.he's going thru alot more than you are right now...
I'm not saying it's right for him to be with someone else,but my stars girl,he's fighting day / night to stay alive.what more you want from him right now? don't think he has time to play over there.
2006-12-12 16:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to dump him now rather than lead him on...I know that for cheating on you is a no good liar....just curious is ur source reliable?
If so then move on....dont give him a second thought....and get on with ur life....u deserve better hunni.....and to be treated better!!!
Good luck with the decision and be happy in what you choose....!!
2006-12-12 15:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Neil M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a husband in Iraq, too dear for one year.....I never felt he ever cheated, he's not that type.....and I have faith he never did...but honey....this is NOT your husband....only a boyfriend...and I think you should move on.....and as far as stress during war....those guys have enough to keep their minds going....but you dear, have a LIFE....move on....Good luck and God bless....
2006-12-12 15:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He screwed you over before he left. So it's his own freaking fault. Don't live with the hurt. Make it his problem and not your. Move on girl!
2006-12-12 15:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by pilljills 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you truly love him? I think that you should really give him the benefit of the doubt. He was probably stressed about leaving. When he returns don't pressure him just try to get a reason why.
2006-12-12 15:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋