I went into his house after work at about 8 pm and he was totally drunk and hateful. He was so increadibly insulting and I dont feel like I deserved to be treated so badly. I am a nurse and worked 15 hours today. I just got off work in time to grab a bite to eat and read the newspaper before bed. I left his house feeling really bad. He sometimes can be so condiscending. How do I get this off my mind so I can go to sleep? I have to work tommorrow.
2006-12-12 15:48:23 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
He is a big alcoholic. He was in Rush Presbyterian Hospital in Chicago in a coma for 30 days with pancreatitis and shock related to his drinking about 3 yrs ago. He nearly died. He stopped drinking for about 2 yrs then started again and here we go again. I am always afraid I will find him dead. His family are not supportive of his sobriety at all. Its like they are almost encouraging him to drink. They helped him get started again. They brought the booze to him. Encouraged it and he started boozing it up again. Now its out of control
2006-12-12 16:02:56 · update #1
Oh yeah, he also drinks Vodka and the hard stuff. He can knock off a liter of Vodka in a day. He drinks sooo much, he has an increadible tolerance and you cannot tell he is drunk until he gets really tanked.
2006-12-12 16:04:28 · update #2
Last evening, he wandered into my house and passed out in the living room floor after I was already asleep. I woke up and found him there this morning. This is getting old. I live with my adult son who is in college and works full time. I am ashamed.
2006-12-12 16:09:40 · update #3
UPDATE:: 12/13: Just checking in to see how your night of rest went and hope you had a good day at work. I hope you can find sometime to really decide if he is the man you want to be with. I do not believe in telling you to get rid of...you have to decide that. You being a Nurse I am sure know alcoholism is a disease. I have been married 29 years to an alcoholic. I love him with all my heart. It hasn't been easy but he has been sober for 6 years now...HE is the one that had to want to stop...I am so happy I stuck by him. Alanon helped me...in person and online. I wish the best to you! Bless you !
Dear happydawg, (12/12)
So sorry you had to endure that tonight. Is this the first time he has been this way...drunken, mean, hateful? I am glad you left and went home. I have been in this situation many a times, I know it is hard to feel good and get rest thinking why he is doing this, will this continue, etc. Please try to think of all the good things you have going for you...a NURSE...very heroic...tell yourself you are a good person...I can tell you are! Prayers always help me feel comfort...I am praying for you to get a peaceful nights sleep and may you wake refreshed and after work take time to decide if he is the man you really want to be with and go from there. Take care happydawg. With all my blessings Nurse!
2006-12-12 15:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mamma Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your question whether or not he's an alcoholic? I really don't know the answer without further information. Does he drink frequently to the point of passing out? Does he have blackouts? Is this interfering with relationships? He could be one, but if he is treating you badly, you need to do something about it! If he can be so creepy why are you with him??? You can do better than a possible alcoholic jerk! I bet you will be able to sleep just fine once you dumb him and find someone you can treat you special.
2006-12-12 23:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by wendy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked myself that same question every night for 4 years.....
My last thought each night was always "Maybe he'll say sorry in the morning, I know he doesn't realize what he says or does when he is drunk".
He never did.........I don't have a lot of advice to help you sleep tonight, but maybe if you read this, you will know what to do tomorrow. Good luck and maybe play some of your favorite music to help you drift away from worrying about your boyfriend or work....
2006-12-13 00:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Stormie_Mommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to rethink about this boyfriend. you are 100% percent correct you do not deserve to be treated like that and being drunk is no excuse. Having lived through a marriage like that my advice is you will feel better about yourself and life alone until you find someone who can treat you with respect. It will only get worse.
2006-12-12 23:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy peace get rid of him. If you want 1 more chance for him INSIST that he go to AA and be a serious participant Hew has to know it's your way or tghe highway
2006-12-12 23:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by devora k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. NOW.
No one deserves this.
Spend your time at church or a bicycle club, any place he wont go and has healthy people.
2006-12-13 00:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rockies VM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋