After my mother-in-law passed away my husband brought a lot of her things in to our home. I like a home that is uncluttered and he brought in several pieces of furniture among other things. To make matters worse, she & I didn't have the same taste & I don't even like these things. I was going to put a couch in one room but it won't fit now, have to walk around an extra recliner, etc. We didn't need any extra furniture, by the way. He wants to keep all these things in the house (actually he didn't even consult me). I feel like our home has been invaded by her things, am I being selfish?
2006-12-12 15:38:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, you r not being selfish.your husband needs to grow up and he is the one being selfish, getting things without even consulting you!!! espcially when they are things of complete opposite taste to yours! get him to sell them or make space but remember you are NOT the selfish one
2006-12-12 15:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. Whereas those things might mean something to your husband, let him put them in a extra room or a closet or the garage that way he can keep them but they won't mess up your home. I understand how you feel and it's not unreasonable as when I moved into an apartment I had some people giving me their old furniture which clashed with my modern sleek furniture. I ended up keeping it in the closet and getting rid of it a little at a time. I appreciated their thought but I really didn't need any of the stuff they gave me.
2006-12-13 00:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband about this? If not, show him exactly what you just wrote and he'll understand how you feel. I personally think that you should put all of her things in a garage or storage. But I guess that it would be okay to keep just two or three little things around the house (like pictures), but not furniture.
2006-12-12 23:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by InIt2WinIt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and come to an agreement, the fact that you don't have room for everything says you need work to resolve the furniture issue. God Bless and have a Happy Marriage.
2006-12-12 23:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..you are not...your husband does. I can understand that its his mom stuff and sure it bring lots of memories for him; but its both of your home now that you both lives.
Sit down and talk to him (gently). Told him that you are not very comfortable about all this, you are trying to understand his loss but you are upset too that he never ask you first. Then, suggest that some of the furniture maybe can be kept in the storage room or goes to your hubby's siblings or other relatives first..:)
Good luck, it will be fine...
2006-12-12 23:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the stuff and take the money and buy somethings really cool for the house. Even let him choose the new furniture
2006-12-13 05:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little. Yeah, it was wrong of him not to talk with you about additions to the furniture, but he must feel pretty strongly about this issue. I don't think it's ever too late to establish a dialogue. Maybe there's a compromise you can work out.
2006-12-12 23:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the things are truely taking up to much room and are overcrowding the house, then you are right. I can understand why he wants to keep the things but I see your point too. Maybe you can compromise and put the things in storage. He gets to keep them but they're out of the house.
2006-12-12 23:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Your husband should ask for your opinion if you want them or not. Clashing furnitures are the worst. I would dump them or sell them.
2006-12-13 02:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.... have you talked to him about it and do you have a garage you can put the extra furniture in?
2006-12-13 00:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Leisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋