my best friend of 30 + years is incredible. i mean if there ever was a best friend she is it. but she gives me the gawdiest gifts. for a few years i convinced her that gifts were for the youngins. but now she is back to the gift giving. i would never ever want to hurt her feelings but i would just like to get back to the gifts to the kids and maybe we could just share a nice meal together now and then. any suggestions on how to approach this ?
2006-12-12 15:27:27 · 6 answers · asked by cindy p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friend of 40+ years and I have had the same tradition of exchanging gifts since we were 10 years old.
Back in the day I would give her $5.00 to buy whatever she wanted, she would give me $5.00 to do the same. The only rule was it couldn't be the same $5.00 bill.
We are now up to $50.00 but the same tradition. But the rules have been added to since we were kids. The "gift money" can only be used on ourselves, no spending it on a bill, no buying the family groceries. Just "our" money. LOL
Ask your friend if you can do the same. You can even make a day of it shopping. Choose the amount you want to exchange (heck, if you are getting the same amount as you are giving, you can be real extravagant).
2006-12-12 15:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that instead of giving gifts you want to share a meal with her, or you guys could treat each other to the movies or other things, but I wouldnt ask her to stop the gifts, she appreciates you enough to look for these gifts.
2006-12-12 23:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by J. R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of it this way, its not the gift that matters its the thought that that person put into finding what they consider the perfect gift 4 u. she must really love u alot to buy u something. so just take it and smile and say thank u even if u hate it. cuz its from the heart.
2006-12-12 23:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by lilmisspriss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always return her gifts. Suggest and take her out for a meal and go Dutch.
2006-12-13 02:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you really appreciate the offer but things are tight financially and you can only afford to buy for the kids. Suggest to her that maybe you and her can go out to a nice restaurant for a Christmas dinner.
2006-12-12 23:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that, but please dont deprive her of making other people and yourself happy. that makes her happy, right?
2006-12-12 23:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋