There seems to be a trend of young single mothers having babies out of wedlock and keeping thier babies. When I was growing up you got married and then had babies. I think if the girl is young she should put the baby up for adoption. Why are there so many teen pregnancies?
2006-12-12 14:52:56 · 31 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There are many reasons, not of which have an easy, overnight fix. I would definitely agree that young women are seeking love, and finding sex instead. Women use sex as a way to connect, and if a young girl is feeling unloved, especially by her father, that can have dire consequences.
Society (unfortunately) no longer looks at children out of wedlock as something to be avoided. So many people embrace a "do what feels good" attitude, and that is not only enabling the behaviors, it encourages it as well.
Many of the young girls that I have counseled WANT to get pregnant, even if some of them won't say it outright. They seem to think that having a baby will fill a void in their life. They are not educated about the life altering change a baby is, and then they're stuck. They crave the attention that women get when they're pregnant and when they have a small baby, but what they don't see is real life happening behind the scenes, so to speak.
Finally, they (and those around them often times) don't know Jesus and the love that He longs to give to them, so they seek it elsewhere....
2006-12-12 15:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lacta-intactivist Mama! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with you strongly on that if a girl is young she should give up her baby for adoption. If she is willing to care for that baby she has the same right as a married mother to care for that baby. What about all the dope headed married mothers giving birth? Just because you are married doesn't make you a better mother. Love make you a mother. The reason there are many teen pregnancies is because they are looking for love. Now days the kids have everything they want for the most part but a lot a kids don't have love. Then there are those who happens to step out and has sex and BAM gets pregnant. You can't put all the young girls getting pregnant in the same category. Every situation is different. What about the guys? The poor girls are the ones that always gets looked upon as BAD GIRLS what about BAD BOYS? Last time I knew it took two to tango.
2006-12-12 23:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by clueless 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there are two different issues you are addressing here. One I agree with, and that is that there are way too many teen pregnancies, and pregnancies out of wedlock. I am not sure that it is too many more than there has always been, and it is probably a whole different story than say during the Renaissance. Women married and had children very young all the time then. The other issue is whether or not the unmarried teen should put her baby up for adoption or not. I do not agree with this, I think that that should be the decision of the mother and her parents.
2006-12-12 23:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok lady before you get off telling people how to live their livs you need to think more about what you are saying. Ok for one do you know how many unwnted children are living in foster care and will probably stay there until thier 18th birthday where hey will be kicked to the streets without anywhere to go? No family nothing! Yeah the ideal way is meeting Mr. Right getting married and then having children living the perfect life but sh!t happens. Ok I am 30 weeks pregnant and single. You telling me becuz I made the mistake of having unprotected sex with someone I decided after I didn't want to be in a relationship with. That that mans I should give away my child. ***** I love my baby and some high horse ridin thinkin they are better then everyone else know it all thinks she can tell me its best for me to give away my child to people I don't even know!!! Are you kidding me! You now its close minded idiots like you that are whats wrong with this world. Yeah its sad that these kids keep getting younger and younger having babys. But obviously they have something going on in thier lives that are making the run to sex to find some sort of love. This is not a trend this is life. You need to stop being so close minded. ow go right ahead and giv me a thumbs down it was worth it to tell someone like you exactly what I think!
2006-12-12 23:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a deeper problem with our culture. There is such an emphasis on sex. It's everywhere. Then, when we as a culture train our men to be emotionless, sex is the only way a girt can get a man's attention. Look at what the sexes wear. Men are wearing layers and big and baggy, with hoods, covering up, while the girls are wearing less, exposing parts that should never be exposed in public... Men are hiding and girls are trying too hard to be noticed. Even the dolls girls play with have changed. Barbie had a sexy figure, but it's nothing compared to Brats giant head (symbolizing big egos) with whorish make-up and anorexic bodies...
What I am saying is that in general people need to start communicating in other ways besides in "what's allowed"... Sex. Men are calling the shots, and girls are not standing up. If a girl wants a relationship, she shouldn't have to settle for cheap sex, and single parenthood.
It all has to do with the way people want to fit in, and be a part of the crowd. The crowd will lead you down the wrong path!!! Love yourself, and the right situations will come. Make right goals that will benefit yourself, and the right people will come along.
And Hats-off to the teen Moms that are doing everything they could for their children.
2006-12-12 23:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not agree with having children out of wed-lock. I am however a child that was born to a teen mother whose father would have made her have an abortion if he had known earlier about the pregnancy. My grandmother on the other had was supportive and I was not given up for adoption either. I was raised by my grandparents and I also have a relationship with my mother. I do not know my dad. I am still looking for him. I have gone on to marry, and have 5 great kids. I am very grateful to my mom for putting up with all the remarks and shame that she received. Because of her I am here. So even though the world has changed so much and it seems that Gods plan has fallen to the wayside. He did give us free will. What we do with our lives is our choice. I know that if I had given birth to a child as a teen and had given it up for adoption because it was the right thing to do I would have been tormented for the rest of my life, wondering about my baby.
2006-12-12 23:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by wesleyann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you have a very old fashioned out look on things and that is not fair. Luckily society has changed and is more accepting to mothers who want to keep, raise and love their babies instead of facing the hardships of giving their baby away never knowing what will happen to him/her. I give all the young moms including teenagers and mothers who are not married all the credit in the world for having the strength to raise their child and to face people like you. I am 22 and expecting my first baby march 11. I am not married but engaged but we own a house, have nice vehicles, and make a nice income which is more than some old married couples can say. I do agree that there are still a lot of unplanned pregnancies which is odd this day in age with so many birth control options but stuff happens, as it did with me... i was on birth control. Please take a look at the big picture and dont be so closed minded.
2006-12-12 23:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are many reasons why we have a trend of young single mothers in our society.Things may be a little out of order now days.The girl regardless of her age can't make the father stay with her and be a dad let alone marry her.The girl should not be expected to give up her child just because she can't be with the father.There are many good single mothers out there. As for the teen pregnancies there are many reasons and perhaps educating children about that could help prevent this.
2006-12-12 23:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when i had my daughter, i knew what i was doing and the consequences. She is now 2 1\2. I got pregnant with my son a few months after giving birth. He was premature but did not survive.
If a young teen gets pregnant they should not have to put their baby up for adoption. If that is what they decide then so be it but to be forced to give away your own flesh and blood is cruel. All women have rights.
2006-12-13 06:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed, so to speak, and more parents let the daughters know that it is ok if they get pregnant, that it will be accepted. Parents today, do not instill morals as strongly as they should. I have a teenage daughter, and I won't pass judgment because she could choose to ignore what I've been teaching her, but she knows that I don't condone sexual activity at her age, nor would I be happy with a teenage pregnancy. Although I do disagree with giving the child up for adoption. Its not the innocent child's fault.
2006-12-12 23:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋