My parents are married 48 years and that is almost unheard of in this day and age. I have been married over 13 years to the same man and even though at times it is trying we work at it and we pray a lot.
My question is this Why is there so much divorce even amongs christians? Is it because people dont get married in the will and or timing of God?
How come couples who get married radiate with joy on thier wedding day and get divorced and wind up hating eachother?
Why does these things happen?
2006-12-12 14:43:29 · 13 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because people spend too much time 'falling in love' and wanting to be with someone for attraction purposes and don't spend enough time getting to know someone as a soul mate & partner. Lust wears out, companionship is forever.
2006-12-12 14:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons why divorce is so high.
Many people are wed in God's eyes, and there are many, many good, prayerful people who were married but had to divorce. Some people DO rush into marriages and there are others who don't grasp the real meaing of marriage, but there are others who are mature and responible and have serious, complicated reasons.
The biggest reason why people are divorced is over intolerable differences. Once married, one person may not be as flexible or tolerant as the other. This leads to conflict. And after many years of conflict and heartache, it leaves the couple unable to love each other, and they must end the marriage. No one goes into a marriage expecting to divorce. But both people in a marriage should have equal rights and privileges. If this is cannot be solved with marriage consoling...what else is there?
God's plan is mysterious and powerful. If a person HAS to go though something as terrible as divorce, consider it as a new, better beginning. Divorced people who I've know have become more active and cheerful (after recovering from the emotion stress) after being a hurtfull and draining marriage.
The reason why it wasn't so high 48 years ago is because of women's liberation. In that time, women would not work outside the home. They couldn't support themselves finally (much less their children) if they were to leave their husband. Plus, there was a social stigma that a divorced woman was a less than trustworthy. Today, this has fortunately changed. Women have options if they are trapped in a loveless marriage. And they expect equal rights in ownership and money.
2006-12-12 15:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that today we are in such a fast pace alll the time and when we marry I know a lot of people say if it dont work out with this person I'll dump him and get me another. I think also that we dont talk enough to each other and we dont sit down to the dinner table and eat and talk like they use to did. No days its stop at fast food , throw it down and off to the next appointment. I also think that tv, movies and the internet may also play a role in the number of divorces. People are not willing to try to work out there problems, the first thing they think about is divorce. yes to youre question.
2006-12-12 14:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are too quick to jump into the now and never think about the future and the hard ships of marriage. It is the hardest thing I have ever done, being married 5 years, I feel like giving up sometimes. But that is just out of frustration. I try to never over react and say things too hurtful that will crush my husband, sometimes my tongue gets the better of me. I do pray and I do believe in God, that gives me strength to commit to my marriage. People take the easy way out and that is sad because there are way too many kids without both parents in the home.
2006-12-12 14:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of good anwers so far. Another thing is the vast amount of leisure tme that we have. It's relatively easy in this day and age to live comfortably. In the past, a man and wife had to work very hard together just to survive. This often brought them closer together. Adversity often makes relationships stronger. Another thing is that a woman doesn't necessarily have to depend on a man to provide for her today. So she isn't as inclined to put up with a jerk of a husband like she might have been forced to do in the past. Plus there is a general decline in morality in today's society.
2006-12-12 14:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Badwrench 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we tend to expect too much from our partners, and maybe from life in general. This is an instant gratification society! If you aren't happy now, make a change and you can be happy! Too bad that isn't always true. We, as a society, change our jobs, our homes, our friends, even our looks and our bodies at a whim. So, when you have to deal with someone who doesn't fulfill your every need when you immediately want it, you may tend to wander off in search of the end of the rainbow and that pot of gold.
There is also the fact that we just don't have the time to truly spend together anymore. We steal moments from our busy, busy lives to spend with our partner--and we expect those moments to live up to our greatest expectations, even in the midst of the stress and exhaustion we both deal with all day. No wonder we are oftentimes dissappointed!
We just need to have patience and understanding--not to mention faith, love, luck, and an iron will to succeed.
2006-12-12 14:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by hdgrrl72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes people start to take each other for granted and forget that they need to communicate with each other. There are sometimes a lot of pressures to such as money issues. I think this is one big thing that cause couples to argue a lot. Things have changed a lot within the last several years and I think people get caught up in the fast track of life. They start taking each other for granted and seem to lose all their communication skills. They seem to forget how to communicate with each other. I think to that sometimes people aare too young and immature to get married. Thinking that it is "the thing to do" so to speak and they sometimes rush into things without giving it the serious thought that they need to. People need to slow down and not worry about the petty things so much and they most importantly need to communicate.
2006-12-12 14:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People dont take the time to work out their issues anymore. People dont realize that there are going to be problems in a marriage and they have to work to pull through and its also so acceptable to to be a single parent or mixed family. No one emphasizes the importance of the family like they used to .
2006-12-12 14:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because people get selfish and only think of themselves. Even among Christians.
They buy into the lies of our society that say that it's all about me, me me. That we have to look out for ourselves first and then everyone else after that.
Well that's no way to make a marriage work, if you want to make a marriage work, you have to put your spouse before yourself. Put your spouse and their feelings and needs before your own.
Because if you do that, and concentrate your focus on each other instead of yourselves it will have a positive impact on a marriage.
2006-12-12 15:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one is that people cannot commit for any length of time and two it's two darned easy to get out of a marriage these days.
2006-12-12 14:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋