I have a friend that is driving me nuts! She calls me like 10 times a day (im not exagerating). We are both pregnant, and have been spending alot of time together, going to each other doctors appointments, and shopping and such. I just feel like lately it's been to much. Today I was trying to take a nap, and she called 3 times! If i dont answer she just keeps calling back! I am going away this weekend and she is freaking out, Asking me what she is going to do with out me for 4 days!!! I dont wanna be mean, and being pregnant myself I know how emotional we can be, What do I do?
I know just saying something to her is the easy answer, I just hate to hurt people's feelings.
2006-12-12 14:19:58 · 8 answers · asked by lindsey4706 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are going to have to say something if you want the behavior to stop. But you can say it in a nice way. If you are taking a nap tell her you really need some sleep and you will call her when you wake up. Nicely set up boundaries. Then if she can't respect them you may have to be more agressive. As another pregnant individual she should know how important it is for you to be able to nap and have time to yourself etc. Some of her clingyness could possibly be attributed to her being scared about being pregnant and she feels the need to have someone close that is also pregnant (you know safety in numbers).
2006-12-12 14:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. Say I really need time alone. I am really stressed and emotional right now. I am sure you understand. I love you to. Thank you. That will help her not to feel so bad. She will see she needed time alone to. Will be great for both of you. Then when you come back. Be subtle. But set perimeters that you won't allow her to cross. In a loving supportive way.
2006-12-12 22:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a cousin do this, only I'm the only pregnant one, she isn't. I kept ignoring it until one day I blew up at her and pissed her off. I recommend just telling her that you need some alone time. She has GOT to understand that, everyone needs alone time every now and then. But if she doesn't and she gets mad, then hey, there's your alone time! Wait a few days for yall both to cool off, then call her and apologize.
2006-12-12 22:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kallie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard because you dont want to hurt her feelings. I would be the same way. I often find it easier to write a note or send a text to someone rather than tell them directly. Maybe text her and let her know you need some alone time. Good luck.
2006-12-12 22:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unplug the phone when you lay down for one and for two make up excuses why you can't spend that much time with her anymore! Tell her you are trying to get the daddy comfortable with being a father and you need quiet time alone together ... just you and him!
2006-12-12 22:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to say something to her before you leave this weekend so that way you can have a relaxing weekend and not have to worry about hurting her feelings all weekend. maybe you should gradually stop spending as much time with her and things will change. hope it goes well!
2006-12-12 22:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by cami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying how you feel will save you a lot of trouble. you can't always protect other people's feelings, what about your own.
2006-12-12 22:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lie and tell her you're sick and can't hang out with her
2006-12-12 22:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋