2006-12-12 14:12:37 · 17 answers · asked by preety_roshi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOPE, MY EX IS LIKE THAT AND IT IS A SICKNESS.
2006-12-12 14:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I will try to help. I see two kinds of liars. People who WANT to lie. Just get away from them. And people who just seem to get things wrong in thier favor. So their side wins. You need to understand that memory is not a tape recorder. Think of clouds. Two people see different things. You see a ship, with sails. You say so, and you point. The other person feels hurt from some other matter going on your lives, so he/she says "No, no ship, that is a castle." Now you both stop talking, and you continue to see waves, and other smaller ships, and all sorts of things that support your ship sighting. You do not say these out loud though.
BUT YOUR MEMORY HAS THEM THERE. 2 weeks later you are with this person, and the subject comes up as to what the clouds looked like that day. You insist on a ship, with WAVES, and and more small ships, THE THINGS you never said out loud are now lies to the other person. You believe in what you saw, but not that you never mentioned the waves or small ships. So because your memories are not perfect ( no-one's are) you KNOW one thing, the other person KNOWS differently, and hence you both think the other is lieing. How do you stop it? Either decide that everybody is entitled to their own opinion, or use a tape recorder, camera, or all. People who are understanding of other people, do not usually stay with people who are not. Lieing can be on purpose, or just a difference of opinion.
2006-12-12 23:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Charllenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've come to find out there are many pathological liars in this world. There is a book called If (or When) your Lover is a Liar by Susan Forward. She says if they lie constantly about everything and everything, they will never change. The best thing that you can do is get out. It took me 21 years to get this through my head. I've been out for 6 years now and I'm a much happier person.
My son just found out the same thing about his fiancee. He was smart enough to get out after only 4 years of nothing but lies.
You want to believe they'll change. You make excuses, but deep down there is nothing in this world that you can do to change them. Sad but true, run while you can.
2006-12-13 01:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person telling lies - the root of the problem is
1. They don't feel secured
2. They say things to get accepted
3. No one seems to trust them
4. Every one finds faults with them. No one is interested in giving them another chance or accept them as they are.
If you are close to him/her - give her the confidence of your trust, let hem lie to you and still say you beleive. You entrust them with what others won't trust. Stop finding faults and admire them for thier good work and sincere efforts. Give the person the confidence that there is someone whom they can be real and will not be punished for their faults.
This is not easy. It is an acid test. But someone who can go through it can help the lier to change for eternity.
If you are not close to him or if you can't take that risk, gently avoid him... may be someone else can trust him and let him change.
2006-12-13 01:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Way ---- Such people who lie even for the silliest of reasons , are compulsive liars.
The sad part is that they do not realise that they are doing anything wrong.
They always justify things even to themselves ; so there is really no scope for change / improvement.
So we just have to take things with a pinch of salt.
But the sad part is that we just cannot believe them wn they are really telling the truth & maybe that is their punishment. So relax.
Learn to sift the truth from the lies & maintain minimum contact with this person.
2006-12-13 00:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Shemit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
If the person is a good friend of yours than you can talk to him/her. You can tell the person that this habit has to stop if that person is close to you than he/she might try to change but it is always difficult. But in case that person is not close to you than you better avoid that person its no use. He /she will not change. Cause the truth is HABITS don't change and if the do not completely for sure...
HABIT if you remove H from Habit == a bit remains
A BIT if you remove A from A bit == Bit remains
BIT if you remove B for Bit == It remains
Got the point....
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-13 00:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you cant beat him you might as well join him try to match him with a lie for a lie this will be hard for you in beginning if you are not a good lier but you will get used to it .Give him back the same medicine and he will change
2006-12-12 22:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by tiger 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving him this quiz to answer........
Tell him to fill in the blanks with either YES or NO.
..............., I AM NOT A MALE.
It may make him a none lier for a while. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 19:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by naafraat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ignore them.Do not respond to their questions.Do not try to talk to them. May be sometimes tell them that you do not like them because of their habit of telling lies.
May god help them to change themselves.
2006-12-12 22:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might confront that person or much better rebuke that person and warn him about the consequences of his misdoings.
2006-12-12 22:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't stop them. You just have to seperate yourself from them. They are basically extremely insecure people.
2006-12-12 22:24:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋