Women older than 40-50(or maby it doesn't matter)
How would you feel if you knew your husband was LUSTING after his 22 year old modest student??? eye sexing her, undressing her with his eyes, staring at her chest and all that.
She got all uncomfortable and decided to take the final exam in the library and never saw him again.
Just wondered how wives would feel about this.
She doesn't lead men on and she's not a skank.
2006-12-12 14:07:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is probably not the first time this man has done this. My husband (married 27 yrs) appreciates women but not degrade them by "ogling" them. I would be upset and approach the situation as how would he like YOU doing that. OK read your other questions. This obviously happened to you. I would truly like to be told that my husband had done this. He would NOT need to be in a teaching position where he made someone uncomfortable...You need to go to the head of the school. And if I read your one question correctly. If this person has ANY contact with you outside of school talk to your mom.
2006-12-12 14:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out about this? From him or her? What does he say happened?
It may be that her reaction was not commensurate with what he actually did. I have known lots of women who claimed they were harassed in situations I personally witnessed and can tell you were not the way they portrayed them.
If you had to hear about it from her or someone else, that would be more concerning. The fact that she got uncomfortable enough to take her exam elsewhere is concerning. If he actually is "lusting" after her, that is obviously completely inappropriate, and disrespectful to both you and her.
Something would have to seriously change in the marriage for me to be comfortable staying with him in that case. Men may get weird when they hit middle age, but I can tell you it's not like that with all of them. Occasionally women hit on my 44 yo husband, who doesn't wear a wedding band, and I can tell you he just stares at them like they've suddenly started speaking Chinese. He's completely forgotten what to do in that situation. He's just a happily married old fart.
2006-12-12 22:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be absolutely furious and sickened to learn that my husband treated a student that way. But I'm telling you something goes terribly wrong when men hit their mid-life crises stage. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff I've heard. Someone should do a study to determine what wires get crossed in many a male's brain when he hits 40+
2006-12-12 22:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the skank. I'd dump is sorry behind no matter how long we had been married. I'm over 55 and married 27 years, I wouldn't take that even at this time in my life. I might test him a bit, suggest medical attention and then be done with it.
2006-12-12 22:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope a professional man a instructor or college professor is not lusting after a student to the point of making her feel uncomfortable. So uncomfortable in fact that she could not take her exams. Are you sure this is not all in this young woman's head. A mature man would not have said a word to a student in fear of risking his career. And a man of his stature would be able to control himself. I think perhaps this female is imagining things somewhat. I am sorry but this just does not fly with me. God bless****
2006-12-12 22:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men are men. The will aways do that to a pretty girl. Yes, it does make them (girls) feel uncomfortable. I think it makes the guys feel more manly so something dumb like that. Sometimes I wish they could have a mirror to watch themselves as they make fools of themselves. Better yet, hear what the younger girls are saying about that old buzzard that thought he was so cool........I have heard them and I still chuckle about it.......hehe
2006-12-13 22:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex husband...these kinda guys have serious problems!!!! They need professional help!!! It is very sick to do that kind of activity!!! I would turn his A$$ in!!!
I've been in that situation before with my then "husband" and he has major problems and he was molested at one time in his life. I would leave his a** and don't look back....you don't deserve to be with a scum like that...you deserve better!!
2006-12-12 22:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by canada4me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it at all and probably be envious of the 22 year old's youthful beauty and my husband's attraction to her. That is....if he was to tell me! However, what I don't know won't hurt me!
2006-12-12 22:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The wife would feel very betrayed, embarrassed, and would probably like to know.
2006-12-12 22:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would feel bad and will warn my husband about it and do everything that needs to be done just to make him come to his sense. Just to make him aware that I still exist.
2006-12-12 22:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋