2006-12-12 13:53:41 · 8 answers · asked by drkitty69 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You could find some articles online or in pregnancy books that clearly state that sex is okay during pregnancy and causes no risk to the baby. But be prepared for him to still not want to do it. Some men just have a fear of hurting you or hurting the baby even though they know it's irrational. You might just have to be patient with him through this and support his decision to abstain if it eases his mind. Keep in mind that yes, it's your body, and you know better, but taht pregnancy can be a big mystery to men and this is his baby, too, and he wants to do everything he can to ensure a healthy outcome. If that means indulging his irrational fears then you should try to support him. There will be a time when you'll need him to return the favor some day :)
OR you could tell him "Hey babe, you better get it while the gettin's good because once the baby is born it'll be about 2 months before my Dr. will clear me to have intercourse again and it could be another 2 months on top of that before I even FEEL well enough to do it." :)
2006-12-12 14:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting". It goes into detail about what you can and can't do.
Your boyfriend might be uncomfortable with the idea that you have a baby inside you. He might fear that the baby is aware or that he is hurting you or the baby in some way. Just assure him that this isn't the case and let him know that it is an expression of love that will keep on bringing you closer. The only time it isn't safe is if there is a history of miscarriage or something turns up in an exam...for healthy pregnancies sex is fine.
Also, be mindful that your boyfriend might not be going through the horomonal changes you are, but he's going through emotional changes and will soon be a father...this really throws some guys into a different mode for awhile. You may need to just listen, be supportive, and understand when he's not in the mood.
2006-12-12 14:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by kath_08012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have your boyfriend go with you to your next prenatal visit. Casually ask the doctor if you can have sex, ask him casually so that your boyfriend isn't embarrassed. You can also find articles on-line and have your boyfriend read them or if you have a pregnancy book, it's clearly stated there. Congrats!
2006-12-12 14:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess just give him the facts, at your next Dr. appt. have him go with you and ask the doctor. Some men are just uncomfortable having sex when their partner is pregnant. my boyfriend, the last few months, didn't want to have sex with me either. He was very uncomfortable with it no matter what I said. Don't push it on him, you wouldn't want him to push you to have sex if you felt unconfortable about it.
2006-12-12 14:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my spouse was the same way when I was pregnant. It means he's sensitive, which is a good thing :-)
In some pregnancy books, they have sexual positions for pregnant couples. Show your boyfriend the pictures so it can ease his mind.
2006-12-12 13:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any books that your boyfriend can read? maybe take him to the doctor's with you the next time you go. or you can go on line here's a link for you
2006-12-12 14:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to this web address and both you and your boyfriend can read on sex during pregnancy. Or try printing it out and he can read it when he has time.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_newborn/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy.html
Good luck with your baby and enjoy every minute of your family.
2006-12-12 14:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by June 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him to attend an appt with you. That way he could hear from the doctor that it's safe.
2006-12-12 14:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋