Ok im so jealous over my husband ex girl friend from 12 years ago he never see's, talks or hears about her ok we now live in the house he lived in when they were dating and i always say little stuff like did you do it here or something like that. She was his first so thats maybe why i'm so jealous. she is never minchened until i say something, but his sister's hubands dad raised her so they prombley but he say's they don't keep in touch so i wont let him go over there with the chance's of her calling or being talked about.
I DON'T WANT TO BE THIS WAY how can i stop excpely with our house?
2006-12-12 13:52:46 · 10 answers · asked by babylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't compete with the x. he married you, not her
2006-12-12 13:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I'd divorce you. I was getting irritated just reading this.
Jealousy is quite possibly the most unattractive trait that I can think of. If you want to drive a wedge right down the middle of your marraige, keep it up.
This isn't 1950. Few people are virgins when they marry. Nearly everyone has a past. Do you? Think about how you would feel if the situation were reversed.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 22:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by blue.green_eyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm, wow. either move into a new house and start off fresh or just try and remember that YOUR the one bringing her into the picture and not your husband. man, i would be jealous too, me and my boyfriend were each others firsts so i dont have that problem, i just hope we spend the rest of our lives together so i'll never be put into your position here, but lets get serious im still as jealous as the next girl. I would just try to remember that all in all shes not important, he married you and not her, and your the one he loves, fantasizes about, cares about and screws! haha.. she should be the jealous one..
good luck!
2006-12-12 21:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be jealous of a woman who had what you HAVE? It's normal to feel the way you do, but you have your prize now and if your husband is happy with you now, why worry? It's not easy to let it go, but let it go! You can't own your husband, you can be a part of eachother's lives.
You should ask him to calm your insecurities though. I think that's what you really are feeling... insecure!
In a way I don't blame you though... men always seem to have this thing for their first love, well.. we women do too, but we seem to be able to move on better too.
2006-12-12 22:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by January Flower 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go get an education. Your selling is worse than mine, and that is really, really bad.
Then go get a self help book. Because, your jealousy of her is only a reflection of how badly you feel about yourself. That is just a fact. We don't have issues with other people when we feel good about ourselves. Fact.
He hasn't seen this girl in 12 years and YOU are thinking about where they got busy?!?!? Be grateful he had some practice before he got to you!
2006-12-12 22:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
twelve years is a long time, she has moved on in her life, and he is with you, for now...meaning if u don't stop this he will leave u, and it won't be for her. u have no reason to behave like this, and harrass him as he is not with her, or seeing her or talking about her. it is all in your thoughts, it's not real. it's funny what our amiginations will do.
2006-12-12 22:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see you are a very insecure person. put the past in the past. don't sweat the small stuff. if you truly love your husband why are you worried about what they did??!
2006-12-12 21:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to drive him nut get help
2006-12-12 21:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by ashley l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust him
2006-12-12 22:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONTROLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ITS NEEDED IN A RELATIONSHIP. ITS HARD BUT POSSIBLE.
2006-12-12 22:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋