those weird akward talks?

Question

its a long question guys

to start off, ill first tell you i dont know what my sexual orientation is. im in 8th grade and maybe im going through a phase or maybe i should just wait. but for now..

whenever theres a girl that interests me at school, & whenever we talk its really...akward..? it like she "knows" im bi or something..it just makes me uncomfortable,she probably feels umcomfortable too. or is it just me?

i have 1 person in mind right now, its like everytime im in the same class as her, we always catch eyes at the same time and its so annoying >:/


uugh how can i show her that im "not" into her or have a normal talk for once?

Answer 1

try to mak her understand that she is no different than your other friends.. you know how to do it..

Answer 2

Well first of all, you're probably not going to be able to have a "normal" talk with this girl until and unless you decide how you actually feel about her. Here's what's making things awkward: you want to have an open an honest conversation with her, like you'd have with your other friends, but you'd rather not tell her you like her. So you don't really know how to balance the two competing desires. Even straight people can feel awkward when they're talking to someone they like, but it's even worse for those who are gay, bi, or questioning and don't know the preference of the person they're interested in.

As far as whether or not it's just you, it probably is, as strange as that sounds. If she's straight she probably doesn't notice; it just wouldn't occur to her that you catching each others' eyes is odd. I mean, everyone's eyes are constantly darting around the room, it's going to happen on occassion, and there's a good possibility that she's looking at someone or something in your general area a good amount of the times you think she catches you. I've been in tons of situations where I thought someone was acting weirdly to me, in that way, and we ended up talking later like nothing was strange; they had never caught on.

If she is gay, bi, or curious, well, you might not be imagining things, but that wouldn't be so bad, would it? Of course, that brings up a whole new slew of problems. You yourself admit you're not quite sure what you want, so it's probably for the best if you hold back from doing anything until you are. I guess what I'm saying is, you've got all these unresolved feelings, and you'd like to be proactive and work them out, but you're not comfortable with any likely solution, so you just sit and stew and get all hot and bothered. Hate to break it to you, but adolescence has a lot of that. I can't really give you a plan of action unless you know what kind of result you're aiming for.

Answer 3

Well, it will probably take more than eye contact, which you're experiencing now. If you want to know what a person's motives are, why not simply strike up a conversation with her, get to know her. Eventually, you'll be able to tell whether she's someone you want to know better, or someone you'd rather not be friendly with. As for your sexual orientation, if you were really lesbian or bi, you'd know it. There would be no uncertainty. Therefore, you may just have an obsession and think you want to be with a girl, when actually you're pretty young and not sure about a lot of things.

Answer 4

When I was in school I had a crush on a girl. She was a friend I never told her that I liked her. I wasn't sure if I was bi, striaght or a lesbian. It wasn't as much as I didn't know as much as I didn't want to admit it. I am now in a relationship with a female that has two kids and I love her very much. In your heart you know what you are and you just need to be yourself and you will feel more comfortable. It is all up to you how people look at you and how you feel around other people. Just be yourself and you will be happy and people will like you more.

Answer 5

HAHAHA WOW i am in the same exact position as u...its hard and honestly they probably know cause one of the people i was crushing on asked me if I was bi but I just denied it cause I wasn't comfortable with admitting it but I thought it was wierd because I never talked to her or anything so maybe I just sent out vibes or whatever lol so anyways I just had to say that cause I'm having the same problem and I'm just gonna see what other people say and good luck!

Answer 6

Well if your not into her that way then you have no worries. But I am assuming those awkward eye catching moments are in some way attraction to each other. If it's really bothering you speak up. Say something. Life is too short. If you do nothing, nothing will change. So get busy living.

Answer 7

ok i'm also in 8th grade exept that i know that i'm STRAIGHT lol....ok i think its just a phase that u go through...or u could b bi...ummm well u just said u thought u were bi but then ur talking about this girl and u said ur kinda into her but then u said u want 2 her that ur not in2 her...so r u in2 her or not? cuz ur question is kinda confussing

Answer 8

just tell her how you fill about her either she'll be fine with your telling her what ever youfill about her . maybe she likes you . remember this donot let females intemadate you ever it make you look like a whimp , just be your self and tell them how you are or fill . if she or thay dont like what you say , at less your Honest.to them.thay will get over it .