this year the company just merged with another company and we are working with an office that is nearby, we have decided to have a grab-bag where we buy a generic gift and to out to dinner, I really do not want to do this this year am I wrong for now wanting to particiapte, I usually do not like to socialize outside the office, I see these people during the week and after work I just like to do my own thing.
2006-12-12 13:46:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
That is understandable. There is no reason why you should have to participate. You have a life outside of work. Some employers do not see it the same way...this is what leads to burn out. If you do not want to participate then simply excuse yourself from the party. I feel that I should not have to spend money on someone I don't know instead of my friends and family, only to "grab" some other gift that I probably can't use or don't like.
My office had a Christmas party this past weekend. I would rather be at home with my husband and our dog, doung our own thing instead of hanging out with people I am forced to spend all week with. I value the little time I have with my husband and dog because of work and school. I simply told people that we had somewhere else to be. Yes they all have carried on about the party all week...but why would I want to spend my Saturday night with a bunch of people who just drink and drive me nuts during the week?
Just excuse yourself from the party and don't think twice about it!
2006-12-12 13:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of office workers in the same position as you are in. As a manager, it's hard to come up with ideas to raise moral - and you hate to turn down anyone who has an idea for bringing your staff together. But the holidays bring out the best and worse in all of us. Some of us enjoy the celebrations; some of us do not. Many of us can't afford all the extra gifts (this includes wedding and baby showers, birthdays, etc.). If you prefer to avoid the office party, just tell everyone you are very sorry you can't attend but that you have other family obligations. That's all you have to do. And don't feel guilty either. Employees that attend office events that they'd rather not attend make it pretty obvious (even when they don't mean to) and it brings the party down for people who do enjoy socializing outside of work. So, stay home and relax... it will be ok!
2006-12-12 13:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't usually socialize with office workers outside of the office then this party should not have to be the exception. Don't feel bad for not wanting to go out!
2006-12-12 13:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not liking to socialize. You just don't want to come across as being stuck up by not attending the office party. But no, you are not obligated to go!
2006-12-12 13:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not really it just shows that you want to spend time w/ your family (if u have one) or want to hang out w/ ur friends because you've been neglecting them (not saying u r) My answer personly, is NO!!
2006-12-12 13:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by angel_baby_101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope, you're not wrong. i totally understand and sometimes socializing w/ co-workers outside of work can be annoying. if you don't want to participate, then don't.
2006-12-12 13:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋