Do you leave the house without telling your wife/husband where you are going?

Question

My dad does and It really annoys my Mom. So my Mom left and went to the grocery story without telling him. He got so upset and said so many mean things about my mom. He assumed that she was out going to see other men. Anyway, I think both should say where they are going and have trust in eachother.

Answer 1

My husband and I tell each other where we are all the time- it's simply respect. Both your mom and dad should respect each other and tell each other where they are going when they go out. What if something happens to someone while they are gone? Why is it that they can't share this information with each other? Your father could use a class in learning how to respect and love his spouse.. it's just rude to leave without saying where you're going.

Answer 2

Well sweetie, it sounds like you're the adult here ! Answering your question...ABSOLUTELY !!! You should always tell your spouse or b/f g/f when you leave the house. I always tell someone where I'm going. What if GOD forbid...something happened and nobody knew where you were ? It's called common sense and common courtesy. Dad didn't like it when mom did it. Now he knows how she feels when he hits the road without telling her. What if dad were on his way somewhere unknown to your mom and he ended up ...........GOD FORBID AGAIN....... in a car accident that sends him flying off the road out of sight of passersby ? If he were hurt she wouldn't have a clue as to where to look for him. If he had told her where he was going at least she would have some idea as to where to look and or tell the police where to look. And although mom was trying to show him how it felt.......to not know where she was......2 wrongs don't make it right. It makes 2 wrongs worse. So, my advise to you is....get dad a box of courtesy for Christmas. Maybe he'll get it then. They are very lucky to have you for a daughter. It's so sweet of you to care enough about them that you went somewhere to try and find a solution to their problem. I hope this helps. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

Telling your spouse, friend, room mate, or relative, or who ever you live with, where you are going and when you are coming back, has less to do with ''trust'' and more to do with ''respect''. What if something were to happen to the person who was leaving? If something happened, then the one, left at home would be staring stupidily, at the police as they tell the police: ''This person walks off all the time and never tells me where they are going or when they will return, but this time this person has been gone for hours { or days }. The police, more than likely, are not going to be very concerned or try to find the person. Telling the ones, you live with, where you are going and when you are going to return keeps them from needless worry and makes for a much more needed peace in the home.

Answer 4

Ever heard of an old saying that goes" WHo's making love to your o lady when your out making love" Well seems like someone is cheating because why is he going to get mad because your MOm goes to the grocery store. ANd yea your right they should have enough trust in each other to realize they are married and why go somewhere else. But when you actually accuse someone of doing something and you expect nobody to say nothing when you do it, Well its' wrong. If I was your Mom I would have your Dad followed one day to see where he goes and what he does? ANd then you will know what is happening.

Answer 5

Personally, I think it's just common courtesy. I always tell my husband where I'm going, and he does the same. There is a lack of respect and a lack of trust on the other's end when that doesn't happen.

Answer 6

This is not a trust issue.

It is rude irresponsible selfish behavior.

Don't be so hard on your mom -- seems like she's trying to get his attention. Then again he may be trying to get hers. You can't tell a full story until you know what goes on in the bedroom, not to be rude but if your dad hasn't got laid in years his behavior may be explainable. Tell your Dad that he upsets you when he walks out and that you would like to know were he is. If he's a real man he'll tell you. Ifr he doesn't god bless your mother--she's a good person and trying.

Print a copy of this and hand it to them. Children need madults to act like adults. It looks like you appropriatly busted yours.

Smile -- now you know how to be a better person

Answer 7

It's only normal to tell your loved ones where you are going just in case should anything happen , the other party will know where to locate you. It is a form of courtesy and respect

Perhaps your parents need to work on their communication and build up their trust so as to avoid all misunderstandings.

Answer 8

That is a sign of disrespect, not saying when they are leaving the house... I totally agree with your last sentence "I think both should say where they are going and have trust in each other".


Even though they are adults and free to do what they want when they please, they should say something when they leave so the other doesn't worry.

Answer 9

We always tell the other one where we are going, but if he didn't my first thought would certainly not be that he was cheating. Sounds like your Dad has some low self-esteem issues if his first thought is about cheating. Either that or HE is out cheating and assumes she was just doing the same thing he does when he leaves without saying anything. Sounds like fishy behaviour to me, either way.

Answer 10

I do all the time, but usually out of habit I tell my wife where I'm going. It's just a trust issue.