I have a big birthday coming up and, as we all do, I am reflecting on my life. Overall I have been lucky -- arguably more successes versus losses, but I can't help but focus on the losses. I am so angry at myself for some of the choices I have made, that I can't let it go and move on. It's debilitating, this sense of fury, I want to be able to focus on celebrating and planning the next stage of my life, but I can't. How can I forgive and forget myself, or at least move on?
2006-12-12 13:04:31 · 8 answers · asked by EJS 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Read the books, The Journey,by Brandon Bays and The Anger Diet by (I forgot) and Bhagavad Gita As it is BY Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. The first one shows you how to get to the root of all your past anger, fear trauma. The second shows you how to deal with your anger now and from the past. The third one tells you all the reasons why we are angry and the root cause of anger and and how to come to the highest spiritual platform and rid oneself of all unwanted qualities.
2006-12-12 14:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you can't forgone all the losses in life, then try facing up to it. I don't mean beinging back all the history in life. To put simply try to draw out in all senses to compare pros and cons bout each aspect. You might came across that actually in having losses in thought but phsically gain in a way you may not acknowledge it's existence.
For the last two years ago, I'd made a very horrible unforgivable decisions which may lead to a very fatal outcome for myself. I'd thought and thought over and over within the near period of it's end. I was so lost then, dunno what I really am suppose to do. By right I knew deep inside what I wanted to do most which may cause grieve and anger to the opponent I'm force to face up to.
I'd follow my instinct to deal with this little dare devil. I follow my heart to conduct this evil deed. I'm still feeling guilty over it til this very day. But to think in a more positive ways. It's something that I must eliminate in life to gain myslef back to the reality.
I believe for everything there is a a right and wrong to it. So try to let go if you find that there is a right to all the wrongs in your past life.
2006-12-12 13:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it out. Accept your mistakes and take out the silver-lining. Humans have flaws, and you need to know that you are fortunate to be able to acknowledge your flaws--but also not dwell on them. Talk to a close friend and tell him or her the emotions you are experiencing. Or if you're not the type to talk about feelings, try writing your thoughts on to paper.
The best place for further reflection if you're unsure, is somewhere that is private and calming for you. Where there is little noise, and distractions. And go through your thoughts. Try to sort out, and root out the reason for your fury. Once you know your reason, accept that it is in the past. Once you've accepted that it's written in stone, you can forgive and move on.
2006-12-12 13:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep asking questions like this. Rather ask yourself "What can I do to make my life better?" Rather than concentrate on what makes you upset- which is ridiculous- concentrate on how to live in the present moment.
The "past" is dead. There is no such thing as the "past". It was once a present moment. Whether you regret doing what you did or not, it doesn't- or shouldn't- matter anymore as long as you are living and in control of your life.
Don't let your mind control you. Use your mind for thoughts that will create a sense of energy and life within. Learn to control your thoughts. Watch your thoughts and learn how to turn them into something productful rather than lamenting on the past.
2006-12-12 13:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that you can't change the past, you can just learn from it.. and for some reason it seems that you did.. you realize what was not a gain and a lose.. and we all go through that.. i just hope that your success in things makes you realize that you have done more in your life then most people your age.. good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-12 13:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once I asked God for forgiveness, I was able to forgive myself for all my mistakes. :)
2006-12-12 13:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered yourself -
you have to forgive yourself, which is often more difficult than forgiving others.
2006-12-12 13:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY, just try, to get over yourself!
2006-12-12 13:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋