2006-12-12 13:03:41 · 14 answers · asked by ton1ishere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
never it will end in divorce anyways
2006-12-12 13:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I knew the day we met that we would be married. We waited 4 months before we actually did get married, but we moved in together after knowing each other two weeks.
All I can say is that the time is different for each couple. We have both been married before and knew what we wanted in a spouse so we were prepared to make a good selection. Younger people need to know each other longer since they do not have the experience we older people have.
2006-12-12 21:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, and seeing others, I believe time doesn't matter, as long as you've seen them through all the many faces they will have, so you know what you're getting into. Some people date for two or three years, and never know someone until they move in together. Its when you actually have to live with each other is when you know if you want to marry them or not. You want to make sure you know you and she will be ready to be with and sleep with each other and no one else. Infidelity is what breaks marriages up, and when you cant live with each other do to differences. And believe me, you will not realize the differences until you live together. Good luck.
2006-12-12 21:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter how long, what matters if both of you are in the same page in life and that both of you agree in evrything that you spectation are n a relationship...All the people that I know that they got marry after they met...like for starting one was 3 months later they got marry, another one 6 months etc...I know so many that are my exampls...Believe or not they are happy couples...One thing is truth all this people are very mature people...That knows wht they want does that make sense I hope it does so Don't matter time Good luck!!!
2006-12-12 21:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it all depends on the couple and how mature they, both, are. Sometimes, the couple can be teens and be very mature...sometimes, they can be middle-age or even older and be very mature...but sometimes, people, no matter the age are showing signs of immaturity and should wait a while before marriage. Waiting a while means this...asking yourselves these very important questions: Do you, both love each other and know how to show that love, to each other? Do you, both agree on religion? Agreeing on religion means the type of religion, not necessarily different types of beliefs in that religion. Who will go to work? Both of you or one of you? How much money have, each of you, saved up? Where will you live? Will you, both, be able to make it, in life, if you have your own place of renting or home ownership? What about children? Do you both want children or not? How would you raise these children? I have seen people be engaged for years and end up in divorce, so in my opinion, the time gage does not matter...what matters most is, Do you love each other and are you, both, willing and able to make it work?
2006-12-12 21:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dee A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think time is not an issue here, it depends how well you know him/her and how do you feel about him/her. Is he/she the right one for you? Keep your eyes open for signs that will let you know if you'll marry your boy/girlfriend.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Examine your conversations. Does he/she include you in his/her plans when he/she talks about the future?
•STEP 2: Consider whether you're both traveling along the same pathway in life. Are you heading in the same direction? Do you share common interests and values?
•STEP 3: Think about the compatibility of your goals. Do you both want the same things out of life, such as a family, kids, stability, money, careers? Are you interested in his/her work and hobbies? Does he/she seem interested in your job and pastimes, even if he/she doesn't share your passion for them?
•STEP 4: Evaluate how he/she treats you in private and in public. Does he/she brag about you to others? Does he/she seem proud to be with you, or does he/she avoid being seen with you in public places? Does he/she stick around when you're having a bad day, or does he/she disappear when you need him the most?
•STEP 5: Evaluate how he treats your friends and family. Is he/she willing to be nice to your friends and family, even if he doesn't like them?
•STEP 6: Assess his/her honesty and trustworthiness. Does he/she do what he/she says he's/she going to do? Do you feel you can trust him/her and depend on him/her?
•STEP 7: Think about all the reasons why you really like him/her. Remember that lust fades, but genuine compatibility endures.
•STEP 8: Communicate with your boy/girlfriend and discuss these issues to figure out if you're both meant for each other.
Tips & Warnings
•If he/she acts secretive or ashamed to be seen with you in public, re-evaluate your relationship. He/she may be trying to hide something from you.
•Since every relationship is different, it does not guarantee that you'll marry your boy/girl friend by following these steps!
2006-12-12 21:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you know the person! some may dissagree but I say live with them first! If you get married right after you meet there are many things you will not yet know! Also get to know the parents! Everyones not just like their parents but theres always similarities!
2006-12-12 21:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is different for everyone, but I believe that if you talk to each other about the subject you should know how both of you feel about marriage. I also believe that patience is a virtue. But when love hits you it hits you very hard and have to act on it.
2006-12-12 21:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Aryam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years!
2006-12-12 21:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something thats different for everybody. I wish that I could tell you a specific time line to when you should marry someone.
2006-12-12 21:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by guardianangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dated a guy for 8 years. we broke up and a year later i started dating another guy and we dater for 5 months and got married. he is the love of my life. when you know then you know. follow your heart. if you feel it is too soon, then it probably is.
2006-12-12 21:08:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋