I know everyone has problems,but I just don't know what to do. She knows what makes me mad. Why does she still do it? We both drink,but I am always worried that when she drinks that she'll call her ex,and she gets so mean and it hurts my feelings. I know I can stop drinking. I only drink when she does. It's like if only she drinks then she gets on my nerves. When we drink together I can deal with her. It's not always bad times,but latley she's been drinking a lot more and I just want to not argue.
2006-12-12 12:58:55 · 9 answers · asked by sexygal8321 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah,she has already been to rehab too. I have a six yr old son and they are really close. There's nothing stressful going on now. It's quite the oppisite. We just got our own place together and moved in. We both work. I just don't understand.
2006-12-12 13:21:20 · update #1
Heterosexual homosexual its all the same we all have our promblems in the love world
2006-12-12 13:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by eca1094 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok y is she calling her ex? and always when she is drunk?..Kinda sounds like someone is not leaving the past behind and clings to it at the back of her mind and uses the alcohol excuse to call..I know I used it alot..I love my g/f now she is the best and even now she knows I have feelings for my ex but I respect my gal and cutt all ties to my ex even when my heart says not to..I know my g/f gets hurt when i drink and talk or act mean to her so I avoid all of that and limit what I drink just so we can still have fun together..every now and then i ask if I can get wasted and the only agreement is that I have to do whatever she wants the next day..next day I wake up with major hangovers which she makes fun of me for while I am either cutting the grass or washing the dishes while she watches TV..kinda sux but hell its a compromise..I love her that much that I am willing to keep her happy all the time..I am sure she is just trying to find a way to vent out her aggression by getting wasted..whatever is bothering her just let her deal with it on her own but always tell her u are there if she needs u..eventually it will seep thru her thick skull and she will learn that she has one hell of a woman by her side..happy holidays to u and I hope u get back into the chippy mode I always read in your posts..especially about being Jen's gal..dammit Jen u got a gem..treat her right..peace~
2006-12-13 21:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Charmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are having problems with your girlfriend although I am straight I can relate. My boyfriend had a drinking problem he went to rehab the whole nine yards I stop drinking I stopped clubbing with him to try to help him nothing worked! I was just unhappy and he was unhappy so we broke up and it was the best thing that happened to both of us. He is now married to Miss Right and happy and I am now happy. If nothing is working and you are always sad why stay you will only get more depressed think about it!
Best of luck!
2006-12-12 21:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by BabyPrincess REAL JAMAICAN QUEEN 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is an alcoholic. This is not a good environment for any child to be in. You might think they don't know what's going on, but they do. She does not respect YOU or HERSLF. The drinking will just get worse. You can't get her to stop. SHE has to want to do it and she doesn't want to stop yet! If you stay hoping things Will get better, most likely you are just kidding yourself. Leave!
2006-12-12 23:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I read that right but I think you're more of a drinking buddy to her and she just wants attention.
If you want to make it work, drink less with her and even if she says something that pisses you off pretend to ignore it, or act like you don't care and see what happens
or
Talk to her about what actually is bothering you when you're both sober, if she is willing to compromise keep her around if not it's better to let it go
its you're call though.
2006-12-12 21:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Word 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are wasting your time with this girl. You can do better than that. Every time you drink so that you can deal with her you are building yourself a horrible little addiction. You are way too good for that. If she continues to play head games by being mean and threatening to call her ex.....let her. Don't let her keep f*cking with you. DO whats best for you.
She has a serious problem with alcohol and you can either face her with it or move on. Either way SHE needs to deal with her problem...no matter how much you say you love her ...you cannot fix her problems for her. All that you can do is point it out to her.
Little Missy....you need to move on. Sounds like you are young and you need to make a statement that say you deserve better.....there is only one person in this world who can change that for you and it is you!!! Stand up for yourself and move on.
I know it hurts to move on sometimes but let me tell ya....it alot less painful than living a life with someone who is self centered and addicted and cruel.
P.S. What kind of statement do you want to make to your son? You need to decide what would be in his best interest. I am sure that the two do love each other...but what kind of role model is she being when she is threatening and drunk...same question can be asked of yourself. Remember, the way you live, in your child's eyes, will be what he mimicks for his own life. By staying in this relationship and not expecting more from you girlfriend is what he will settle for later on in life....is this what you really want for him????
2006-12-12 21:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything stressful going on with her work or family or school that might make her want to drink more?
Alcohol doesn't make things better, not at all. It sounds like she's developing a real drinking problem, if she doesn't have one already.
Please check this out:
http://www.gayalcoholics.com/alcoholism-signs.html
2006-12-12 21:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm sorry, but I think you're better off without her.
2006-12-12 21:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by bom-chika-wah-wah!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel so bad for you.
2006-12-12 21:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋