My friend started going out with this guy. He's really polite, but he's just using her as a booty call. She's only 14 years old, they've only been going out for about 2 weeks, & already she's spent the night at his house 5+ times. She ditches school now, & goes to smoke pot with him (she never used to smoke pot to begin with).
I'm mad at her, because now she never even hangs out with me. I've lost all respect for her. Should I do the friend thing & talk to her, & tell her all she's doing wrong? Or should I just sit back & watch her while she messes up her life?
2006-12-12 12:45:42 · 14 answers · asked by bean 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should talk to her! Take it from someone who could have ruined their life doing the same things at the same age. I am 22 now, and, although I don't regret any of my decisions (you learn from everything, is my motto), I wish I had had a good friend to tell me what I was doing was dangerous. She could potentially get an std, get pregnant, or get caught with drugs or drug paraphanalia. I've always been there for my friends, even if I was mad at them. My friends mean the world to me, and nothing like not hanging out with me is going to keep me from trying to help them when they obviously need it, no matter if they want it or not! Just try talking to her. Even though she may not like it now, she will appreciate it later on down the road.
2006-12-12 12:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you can try & talk to her. Don't yell @ her or else she will just walk away & ignore you.Tell her about your concerns & if she still doesn't listen then...*sigh* All you can do is hope that she has a change of heart & realizes how her life is getting messed up for being with the guy
2006-12-12 20:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by pkbabe87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you can see that some guy is not worth messing up, you should talk to her and try to help, but if she doesn't want help there's nothing you can do. talk to her (she'll probably not care), and just be there when she needs you (it's not just waiting and watching, it's being a good friend giving her space, but also don't let her get away with it) man, it's hard to explain, talk to your school counselor too.
2006-12-12 20:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by kissed_by_a_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you tell her, she will probably still do it. Only if shes emotionally insecure. Shes probably in love, but doesnt realize shes only a booty call. As much as I hate to say it, people only realize things on thier own. Then they almost never make the same mistake mistake again.
2006-12-12 20:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by awall71688 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and tell her how concerned you are about her. If she's having sex at 14 she could get pregnant or get and STD from this guy.
2006-12-12 20:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by vruiz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a friend and tell her that you're sorry for being mad at her.. also, tell her that you're concerned for her, don't tell her all she's doing wrong, she may take that as judgement, explain how you think she's messing up her life and how you believe that she's hurting herself.. put your anger aside and help a friend in need..
2006-12-12 20:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you tell her she isnt going to listen to you. A person needs to fall in the hole before they learn to watch where they step.
2006-12-12 20:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and explain why you are not hanging out together. Tell her your not jealous but you know he's using her and scared for her.
2006-12-12 20:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by fast_n_fun_nillin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa hun, shes only 14 and getting THIS serious with some guy? if that was my friend, id talk to her and if that didnt work, tell an adult. maybe her parents. as stupid as that sounds, it really might work.
2006-12-12 20:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by christine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her. Wouldn't you want her to tell you?
She might not even listen at this point, but I would at least try
2006-12-12 20:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋