I have been working for this company for 6.5 years. I have been traveling on the road all the time for 2 years. 8 months ago I got involved with my boss who is married and we had carried on a relationship for 8 months. I never done it to get ahead or for money. It happened because I developed fillings and he confessed he had feelings for me. He told me all kinds of things and I really believed him, I also saw results of the things he promised me. He has told his wife and he has decided to stay with her and work on his relationship. I am able to keep my job and continue to work but another kicker is she works there too. What am I going to do, and why was able to keep my job?
But through all of this coming out I found out that it was not the first time he had done this. Why does continue to forgive him, and why does he continue to do it?
2006-12-12 12:44:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does it because she forgives him. She forgives him because she doesn't feel she deserves any better.
2006-12-12 12:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new job. Staying at your current job will only make your life more difficult in the long run. Remember in the future that any married man that will have sex with someone outside their marriage is someone that does not respect marriage and relationships, therefore will never respect the relationship with you. Obviously your boss has problems with multiple affairs which shows he has some major issues of his own, and his wife is lacking strength and confidence to continue to stay with someone that would do this over and over to her. Consider this a life lesson and promise yourself to have the self-respect to force any married man interested in you to leave his wife before you take the step of sleeping with him. You are worth it, and if he won't leave them for you, you know he isn't the one for you.
2006-12-12 20:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't honestly think this was going to work out, did you? It seems to be a very common tale. Office affairs are almost cliche anymore. You should probably distance yourself from these people as quickly as possible. Find another job. Your history with this man will surely cast a shadow over any professional endeavors at your present position. You need a fresh start and promise yourself not to forget the lessons you learned from this experience.
2006-12-12 21:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant lose your Job because there afraid you will cause a huge stink or sue them but that doesn't mean your safe. They can find another reason or just make your job a living hell till you quit.
His wife probably knew all along. The whole''coming out'' party was just his way of ending it with you without doing it face to face and dealing with you.She is his protection. She has probably cleaned up his messes before and is prepared to do it again.
Id ease slowly out the door..I wouldn't even ask for a recommendation.
2006-12-12 20:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by mint_julip1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing we should keep in mind is never to miss business with pleasure. I think you should at least start looking for another job just in case he has told his wife who you are and she tries revenge on you. He should not be holding the position that he has and some people use their higher positions to get over on others. We are always to have a back up plan in case things happen anyways. Just keep your eyes open for signs. On the other hand, his wife could be mature enough to have forgiven and forgotten the situation. But... keep your eyes open for changes in behaviors.
2006-12-12 20:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Update your resume and start looking for a new job. You should not have any contact with this person, for the sake of everyone involved. I'm sure that he and his WIFE will investigate the reasons for his cheating. You don't get to be a part of that process. You should find a counselor to help you through this painful period. Resolve to never do this again, it belittles you and all women. Good luck!
2006-12-12 20:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Indievoter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the job. Don't you feel guilty knowing the wife knows about you and you work in the same place??
Leave the job
2006-12-13 05:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel funny looking into the face of a lady whose husband I slept with.I would get another job.Even if it paid less money,just for self respect reasons.Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
2006-12-12 20:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He continues to do it because he keeps manipulating women into screwing around with him. They keep LETTING him. If his wife knows (and I'll bet she does), SHE keeps letting him.
There's a reason that they say not to fish off the company pier.
2006-12-12 21:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you care why he continues to do things and she continues to forgive him, its not your relationship, it is a sign of poor judgement when you date your boss especially when his wife works in the office too
2006-12-12 20:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you've done is wrong.. but the reason you are able to keep your job is that he does not want a harrassment charges/lawsuit from you.
2006-12-12 20:51:29 · answer #11 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋