Im bisexual and i rele like my best friend and she likes me too but im afraid to tell people and i feel like im hiding who i am what do i do??
2006-12-12 12:41:54 · 43 answers · asked by xASHx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well considering i'm u're bestfriend i think that u should do what u want. don't be afraid to do what u want. i luv ya.
2006-12-15 01:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by psychopathic bi*ch. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey please do not ever let what people call you bother you. Just be the best person you can and go on with your life.
I've been ridiculed in my life as well over other things. Life is hard sometimes no matter what you believe. Just feel sorry for the people that try to make you feel bad and know if they put you down something is lacking in their life or they feel threatened in some way. Most people make fun of the unknown because of fear.
Really it's not worth your time worrying about it.
Good luck in the future.
2006-12-12 12:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by indistar523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a gay man having been out for a long time, I understand where u are in your life. Hiding is safe but not. Not being true to yourself can cause you much emotional pain. Be proud of yourself and whatver your beliefs and feelings. As far as outing yourself and you best friend, that should be discussed between the 2 of you. It's one thing to annouce yourself but to speak 4 someone else is not cool. Whatever you decide stand strong. It gets easier with time.
2006-12-12 13:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by marcchaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK LISTEN TO ME. This is important. While most people say that you should not care what others think about you, this is not true. It's nice to think that if you stand for what you believe nothing bad will happen but it's not true. I dated a bisexual female and we were victims of alot of hate crimes. I don't mean to scare you but if you are around anyone that you think might treat you badly or abuse you in any way then DON'T tell them. If you think people will take it badly but you won't get hurt then you can say it anyways, but if any physical damage might happen to you then keep it to yourself, better safe than sorry.
2006-12-12 13:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by gsa_adan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people might be thrown back a little... give them time to let this sink in. The people who truly love you will support you. Do you think this is a curiousity thing? Or do you see yourself having a meaningful, long lasting, marriage material relationship with a man OR women? OR ask yourself... would you rather be miserable with someone you don't love to make everyone else happy?
2006-12-12 12:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sue A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to learn when it is safe and smart to "come out" to others, unless you want to suffer the consequences. The fact that you label yourself as bi, rather than gay may say something about your readiness to expose yourself as a homosexual to the world; or you may be legitimately bi, depends how you currently feel about sex with men, not how you felt previously.
Do not CARE what others say unless those people can affect your life adversely, then use good judgment about whom you tell until you are absolutely sure about your choice.
2006-12-12 12:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hide it and repress your feelings, until your 20th wedding anniversary, where you'll snap and smother your husband with a pillow, and go run away to Vegas with the young 21-year-old next door.
Just kidding. Be yourself, and forget other people. Also, bear in mind that it is NO ONE'S business what your sexual orientation is. The only people that need to know are you, your sexual partner, and your gynecologist. That's IT. You don't need to wear a T-Shirt that says, "Look at me, I'm Bi". It's not necessary.
2006-12-12 12:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go about your business with out worrying about what others think. It is your life and you will find that the ones that matter are the ones who dont care about your sexual orientation or other things not related to "you", or your character. IF you really like like htis friend then you should follow your heart. A man can offer the same love a woman can and the other way around. Good luck my friend.smooch
2006-12-12 12:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by qwertysoc 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's not necessarily "hiding"
whether people are gay, straight, bi, or whatever.. our personal life is very "perosnal" and we don't have to tell everybody we know all the details.
if you and your best friend are comfortable with each other and enjoy being together, then that's great! what you two do together is none of anybody else's business..
if the time comes that you and her want to take things more serious, then perhaps you'll decide to tell your other friends and family.. buy hey, don't sweat it. enjoy yourself and enjoy your friend, and don't worry about broadcasting updates to the entire world!
2006-12-12 12:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it would be unsafe for you to do, just come out of the closet. You'll find out who your true friends are. If someone doesn't like you because you're bisexual? Tough!! You can't hide in the closet because of other people's opinions - be true to yourself!!
2006-12-15 14:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal question, and i know that every answer counts, so here i go...:
I suggest telling only people you really trust, like your parents and your siblings (if they are old enough to understand). Of course they will be shocked: you're their little girl, or big sister, or pesky little sis. But being honest with them helps, it really does.
as for your BFF, good luck! I sincerely mean it.
2006-12-12 12:49:25 · answer #11 · answered by indifferent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋