how do i stop thinking about wanting to get pregnant??

Question

I have been told to relax and stop thinking about trying to get pregnant then it will happen....

but when i have sex how i can i stop myself thinking is this going to be it is this the month i will fall pregnant and have the baby i am so desperatly wanting

has anybody got anyways i can stop myself thinking into it to much, i try but it always keeps creeping back into my thoughts.

I am setting myself new targets i am quitting smoking and i am on a healthy food regime, (even though its the season to over indulge)

But i still keep thinking about it, i see pregnant women and so wish it was me how sad and selfish am i being?

please help i do truly believe it will happen when i least exspect it too, i just want to enjoy having sex with my husbad and not think about trying to get pregnant.

Shall i stop calcualting my ovulation dates??

My periods are a little up and down one month they will be a a day or 2 earliy the next month they could be a day or to late leading me to think i am pregnant then mother nature arrives even more dissapointment, because they are up and down like this does that make it harder for me to fall pregnant??

Answer 1

It'll happen hun....dont worry. Things happen when we least expect them. My sister was trying for 2 years and nothing happened. Finally she just quit "trying" to have a baby and wouldnt you know it, she got pregnant. Nobody is going to be able to tell you to just stop thinking about it because you never will. But rest assure when the time is right, it will happen for you. Throw out your calandars, dont have sex on a schedule...just go back to the way things were, and in time you'll be a mom before you know it. Getting healthy is a good thing to do to not only keep your mind off of it for a while, but to prepare you for when you finally do have a kid. Theyre cute and wonderful but as soon as they learn to walk they're outta there! The healthier you are , the easier it will be to keep up with them. Good luck!

Answer 2

you are trying way to hard to get pregnant you are probably putting alot of stress on yourself . I have been through what you are going through , i was extremely desperate for a baby i cried every month i got my period it was literally taking over my life , i knew i could get pregnant as i had a 2 yr old at the time but i wanted another baby . I fell pregnant eventually after 13 months of trying and only because we were moving house and my attentions were focused elsewhere ie ; getting the new house nice etc and then out of the blue there it was morning sickness . The moral of this is try to relax , enjoy making love not making a baby , divert your attention ,concentrate on something else , take up a hobby and i bet as soon as you chill out , i bet in no time you will be doing a pregnancy test . As for the ovulation , you are at your most fertile 10 -14 days after the start of your period , i had that to a T with my last 2 pregnancies , only taking weeks to fall , watch out for the slimy white discharge , thats an indication of ovulation . All i came to say really was relax .

Answer 3

You're not being selfish because I often does it. When I see a pregnant women I do wonder you know why couldn't that be me. How long have you been trying to get pregnant? you know it takes the average couple at least a year to conceive.How often do you have sex with your husband? A common cause is that we are not having enough sex and it has to be around the time you ovulate. Try not to think about it. If it's meant for you to have a baby you will; only time could tell when.

Best wishes to you and your husband. I hope you get pregnant ASAP... Good Luck and a happy yet romantic baby-making to you.

Answer 4

As long as your menstral cycle is normal, you will get pregnant. It may take a few months. They say it is normal to try for 6months to a year before assuming anything is wrong, so just focus that poitive energy on something else. Create a romantic evening for you to spend together, get a new hobby, or Answer Questions on Yahoo! I would say yes, ditch the chart. Have sex about every other day and just let it happen. Having a child is not only a start of a new life, but the end of the life that you've known that is revolved around yourself and your spouse. Enjoy this time in your life! And it will come!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I understand completly how you feel. We have been trying for 2 years now and nothing. It is hard and everyone around you seems to be having babies. I figured that it was making me deppressed and nearly ruined my marriage. So I decided to quit smoking, lose weight and spend more time on my family, career and husband, i know it is easy to say these things and harder to do them but it is doing you no good stressing over what will be. only time will do this for you. Maybe go and see a doctor and see what happens, they may suggest a check up or something. Thats what we did and then we sat back and felt more relaxed knowing that something was being down about it. yout time will come just like mine will and then you will have a house full before you know it. Please stay positive and think that it will happen and then it will. be happy and strong and believe in eachother and the future - lots of babydust ***** Good luck xx

Answer 7

It is a wonderful joy to have a child, coming from a man let me assure you, when your mate is preoccupied with other things during an "encounter", it is very easily displayed, not purposely of course. If your husband is picking up on this tension and stress when you get ready to enjoy one another, it will be an immediate red flag that will put him on the defensive. We all know that you are wanting desperately to get pregnant, does he? Also, men have a psyche that usually doesn't allow them to think of anything in the right terms at the right time, so when you are thinking about getting pregnant when you are together, he probably often believes you are thinking about another man. This will kill the "moment" faster than anything. Instead of focusing on getting pregnant, focus on enhancing the experience. Is there something that he really likes that you have never tried? Try it. Talk to him about what he likes and what he wants. Your objective is to prolong the experience for as long as possible. If the possibility of multiple encounters in the same night is there, seize it. Trust me, enjoy all the fun that you can in the bedroom department before the kid is born because once it is all you will be able to think about is how do I go to sleep. Good luck, keep your chin up, and think about what I have told you, doesn't it make sense? And I am a guy.

Answer 8

Stop smoking 100%. Try to avoid alcohol, but concentrate on eating as well as possible, avoiding over-processed foods.
Try some intensive relaxation, either massage, refelxology or reiki. It all sounds a bit potty, but, if well done, it has a chance of relaxing you away from something that can only be an obsession. Definitely stop calculating dates, it does you no favours. Also, it will do your sex life no good, unless its a bit of fun. Noone wants to do it by the calendar.

Seriously consider trying to go part-time. Have a day or just an afternoon to just yourself, not for housework etc! Maybe try to focus it all into running or gym, it can make all that energy go in a postiive direction, and the healthier you are teh better your chances of conception. AND ALL OF THIS APPLIES JUST AS MUCH TO YOUR HUSBAND. SMOKE ALCOHOL AND POOR HEALTH KILL AND WEAKEN SPERM! Takes two to tango.

And don't feel bad about your feelings about pregnant women. I hated them and resented them through years of fertility problems, and found it very difficult seeing them, and seeingsmall babies. Have top admit to feelings of great hostility, and I think ti is good to be honest with yourself and admit these feelings. It was far worse for my wife for whom the lack of children was a desperate, never ending grief.

But as I am writing this, my gorgeous daughter is playing on teh living room while my son, around whom my world revolves, is sittng on the sofa. We ended up doing it the egg donation way, whcih was slow difficult and expensive. BUt we got there, and you may too!

Don't give up, but do give yourself the best chances. You can always email me on [e-mail], and if I can I'll help.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Ok, first of all.....relax. take a deep breath and stop stressing over it. You are letting your desire to become pregnant, turn love making into a chore when it should just be fun, and a pleasurable moment for the both of you. take a long warm bath and maybe even give each other massages, and just focus on each other for a change. you have done everything else right so far, so do yourself ( and your hubby) a favor and just enjoy loving your husband, and see it as just that instead of trying to turn it into a baby making chore. I hope this helps you. and good luck. and It WILL happen when you least expect it. so just enjoy and have a LOT of fun!

Answer 10

You should just let it happen.
However, if you seem to have trouble month after month, perhaps you should seek some advice from a medical professional.
Also, having a child is a HUGE deal! You need to make sure both you and your husband are ready for it! Don't just try to get pregnant because you want one.
And it's not sad for you to wish yourself pregnant. Many women do!