How do i tell my parents that i'm sexually active??

Question

I'm 13 yearz old and i've been sexually active but my parents still think that i'm a virgin.......... what should i do..... don't tell me 2 stop cuz i already know that....... i need wayz that i can tell them that i am without them killing me in the process.... i'd appreciate ANYTHIG just give me something plezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Answer 1

Well, the best thing is to be honest with them. Yeah they will probably be angry & disappointed but it will be for the best. Talk to them about birth control and protection, esp. if you don't plan on stopping. I really think 13 is awfully young to be having sex. Just talk to them. They may be a little more understanding than you think. They might be glad that you felt that you could talk to them about it. Better to talk to them about it now & let them help you get BC before you have to tell them that you are pregnant. Good luck hon, I hope that things work out. I wished that you would rethink the idea of having sex at such a young age though. You have the rest of your life to have sex and with someone that loves you & respects you. Best to be honest with them ok hon. Again, good luck!

Answer 2

Some times its best to tell the truth at least the can maybe have a good talk with you if your female maybe birth control male maybe money for condoms starting to have sex is a part of life some people don't like to say that but hey it is every one has sex and that's how the human race stays afloat but you must use protection you do not want a child yet . Also you don't want any std's some stds can sterilize you witch means you will never have any children you are having sex witch is like playing with fire eventually you will get burned. I dont think any one should burn this 13 year old at the stakes we were all young once and man i wish i could have gotten advise from people like this . Good Luck Kid but I would tell your parents.

Answer 3

Well, first I'd write them a letter telling them that I have a serious topic to discuss (either your mom OR your dad ... whichever one is least likely to kill you). Of course make sure it says you're not suicidal or anything ... give it to them right before you leave for school.

If you have little brothers or sisters who might listen in, ask to go somewhere private when they ask for talk about it.

Tell them that you know they won't be proud of you, but you need their help and want to be responsible.

Then drop the bomb.

If they ground you or yell or say you can't see your boyfriend anymore, DON'T argue. That will make them even angrier. Just say you know they're disappointed and didn't want to wait even longer before telling them. Take your punishment like a young lady, because that's the kind of responsibility you're taking on.

Past that, if they refuse to let you leave the house or see your friends or whatever ... give it a while. If it gets too much to bear ask to see a therapist with them (family counseling). It will help them understand what's motivating you to have sex at such a young age and also help you understand their reactions.

Have you been using protection? Tell them this in the 'big conversation'. If so, make sure they know that. If not, admit you were stupid and ask them to help you be protected in the future.

Good luck.

Answer 4

my dear i was in the same situation at u'r age i am now 27. if i can go back i would have been opened with my mother and father even though i was very mature for my age i got my self birth control and i always practice safe sex!!! but my cover was blown when my mother found my birth control pills. and she flew over the cocoo's nest!! try not to have sex but if it's something that u feel u'r ready 4 then u should take adult actions and protect u'r self and discuss these things with u'r folks. but i do understand that some parnets r not easy 2 talk 2.
F.Y.I.
if u get on the pill but them & u'r underwear drawer then u will remeber 2 take them everyday but that's only if u change u'r underwear everyday and if u don't yuckie!! then u really shouldn't be having SEX!!! and if your folks find them then u don't have much 2 explain u can just say well at least i'm protecting my self. use condoms to cause preg. isn't the worst that can happen u can catch ab std

Answer 5

I would not tell them straight up, I would go to the parent which you trust the most, whether your mother and/or father and you should ask them questions: such as, what is sex? how does one know if you are ready for sex? do you prefer for your child to come to you if they were thinking about having sex? and there, they will be able to know that you are either thinking of having sex or just being curious - but at least you are not confirming that you "had" sex. The key is that you want to be able to start opening that conversation and communication between you and your parents. Do not get me wrong, they will not be happy and they may react negatively and refuse to talk to you about the topic, but if that is to be the case, you need to act maturely and show them that they are acting wrong. Ask them, would they not prefer for you to come to them or do they prefer for you to go to someone else who is not going to tell you the facts. The more mature you act, they more they will see that you are growing and that you are acting responsibility. You have alot on your shoulders but make sure that you play your cards right. Additionally, do not make the stupid mistake of having unprotected sex and/or getting pregnant. Now that you know what sex is, make sure that you do it responsibility. Good Luck.

Answer 6

take a deep breath and relax. ok now say mom/dad we need to talk ok. now i dont want you to say ANYTHING until im done, some of this is really important. mom/dad ive been sexually active for______ m/y and i understand what the consequenses for my actions could be. now i did/didnt use protection. if you did great if not- i now know that i should have she/i is/is not pregnant so you do/dont need to worry. i was curious and i wanted to know what it was like. im really sorry if this is a disapointment, and i regret losing my virginity so young. im sorry.

now when you tell them this they can react in 2 ways one speechless, 2 WTF!!!! if they start WTFing when your talking keep talking, pretend you dont hear them, keep your voice calm and relaxed. remember sex is very mature so u need to act mature. if they chose option 1 wait for there response when your done. dont say anything more. when they respond, answer their questions honestly and maturly. now they might punish you they might not. but relax they had sex to have you, and even thought your VERY young, u had to lose it sometime. good luck man!

Answer 7

Don't tell them anything until you get yourself pregnant.
If there's one thing Mommy and Daddy love most, it's the shock factor.
Kidding.
I honestly don't know what I would do if I were you.
Thirteen is too young to be having sex, you're a baby yourself.
Your best bet is to keep your legs closed and wait until you're older to tell your parents the awful truth.

Answer 8

well first you are the only one who knows how your parents react to such things so besides my advice you have to use your own knowledge .. but... you should calmly sit one of your parents down.. the one you feel more confident in telling, and calmly tell her / him wat you have done.. thats all. And if he /she flips out on u all u do is stay calm and say .. "well im sorry but i am just being honest with you" or something like that .. i think that this would be a simple. maybe nervewracking but once over with shouldnt create too many rpoblmes.. though we all know it will. but it shouldnt b too badd

Answer 9

Tell your mom first. And don't just come out and say "mom im having sex". Tell her you've thought about it and you're ready to be put on birth control therefore she will find you being a bit responsible.

Answer 10

first have yourself checked, go to planned parenthood and have every test pos. taken, get protection, then tell your parents. There is no easy way to tell them but at least they will see that you have been responsible, and u should always be responsible and careful. If your grown enough to do it you should be grown enough to do it the right way.