If men don't trust women, and don't respect tramps...?

Question

And everyone says that not ALL guys are @ssholes, then where the hell can a decent honest girl find a guy who will find her as sexy as the whores on pornos, trust in her and show it, and still love her enough so that she can TELL? It seems to me that if they haven't done anything to hurt a woman, they've still got a prejudiced attitude against them. Why should we give them the benefit of a million doubts when they can't give us any?

I am 33, and this is a general observation I've made. It would be nice if the nice guys out there would stand up and be counted so we can acknowledge they are still out there, since I hear so much about these mystery men. And yeah sure, I'd love to have the privilege of exploring one!!

All the men I've met have already been very hurt by a previous relationship. And OBVIOUSLY not everyone is the SAME, DUH!!!!! Don't answer if this is all you have to say.

Answer 1

I like a women who has my back but is also a freak in the sheets. To me, what 2 people do behind closed doors is their business, but I would love to find a woman who I can truly trust and also have great sex.

Answer 2

I don't think that all men don't trust all women. If that was true then there will be no such things as happily ever afters. Just because the divorce rate is over 50% doesn't that mean that the balance of couples are like the ones that you are seeking. Like the old saying goes "All the good ones are taken" I guess it has a lot to do with the media and how people are treated. Trust is not given it is earned and given that it also works both ways. I think that trick is to find someone and have a lot of commuication to build a soild foundation of a relationship. Most relationships fail because we as humans get married for the wrong reasons because we think we can change someone or we tend to look through rose color glasses hoping we found the right one. With any luck you find that special match. Good luck

Answer 3

Well, we are still out there having the same problem your having finding the right woman. It just seems that every time we meet one, we get tossed aside for one reason or another. Maybe it's because we have kids, or maybe it's because were independent, I don't know. But I wish I did. That would make this whole dating thing much easier to swallow. It's already hard enough trying to adjust after being off the dating scene for 13 years, but having to deal with the games is a little much. I would love to find someone like you, but have yet to do so. But hey, you know what they say. Never give up! And I never will. And I don't think you should either. Your knight in shining armor will come. Just be patient. Peace.

Answer 4

You have apparently had nothing but bad experiences with the wrong men. There are good men out there as you described. I know because I am one. I'm not prejudiced toward women even though I've had some bad experiences. Women are to be loved, honored, adored, and respected for the beautiful, intelligent, loving creatures you are. Trust me. I know.

Answer 5

so you have heard alot about us?
very werll, i will find the leak in the organization of nice men and eliminate him before we, i mean they, the nice guys are all exposed.

going on to your question now, i can't speak for all guys but i do know from past experience that the women that i have generally been atracted to are tramps, so i don't trust in anyone that i seem to be interested in.

the reason for this is that i am raising my daughter on my own and i've seen the damage caused when my ex left us and of the couple of girls that i've dated ever since, expectations are raised and then suddenly dashed against the rocks and thrown aside, but then again, i speak about the women that i have dealt with in my own personal life.

since i am responsible for my daughter too then i do have to be more cautious about who i interact with and the stigma of previous relationships still sits there.

i haven't done anything bad to any woman in my life, i've had not so good things happen to me though and after a while i discerned a pattern of actions that comes from relationships and am always on the lokout for a warning sign.

if this girl lied to me and then cheated and then left and the next one did the same and the next one did the same then it stands to reason that if i date a girl and she starts to lie then the next step will be for her to cheat. then again it is probably the results i get from dating the type of girls i was atracted to so go figure.

most of us nice guys, i mean them, are traumatized by being stepped on and abused over a period of time, some of us have personal reasons for hiding out, and others just got tired of the game and got beat down by the idea that nice guys finish last (fact)

if nice guys finish last then you don't really see them in the race if you only stick around long enough to find out who the winner is.

it gets hard to trust someone, anyone when you have confronted a person with good intentions in your heart and those intentions have not been returned, simple thinking brings us to the point that if the last 10 were bad then chances are the next one is no good either if she acts even remotely similar to the last 10

sorry for rambling on, i will stop now

Answer 6

Are ALL guys a$$h*les or just the ones you'd consider dating or consider attractive?

I think a lot of women (I have friends like this) set their standards unrealistically high, with lists of "must haves" instead of accepting men for who they really are. Yeah, they can be pigs, but that's kind of human nature.

You can find the nice, respectful men, but they may not be the doctor or lawyer or make $100K per year, or have the Greek God body.

The "average" guy is usually the one who respects women and is a nice guy, but many women won't look at him twice because he's "too nice" or just consider him a "friend". I have one of these and he is my best friend and treats me like a queen. I couldn't ask for anything more!

Answer 7

there are all kinds of people out there ,,,,, the pond is full of fish so to speak ,,,, Keep fishing you are bound to catch some one ,,,, One piece of advise though ,,,, Never settle for what you consider second best ,,,, You'd never be happy if you did ,,,, You didn't mention your age bracket but I'm putting you at maybe late teens or early 20's ,,,, Guys in that age bracket that are mature enough that they can commit to just one person is few and far between ,,,, It's usually I do until they don't want to anymore ,,,, Girls have this problem sometime too though ,,, It's not just a male trait ,,,, But anyway this is usually why it's hard to find a partner or mate that is satisfactory ,,,,, Maturity among the yound is rare and when you do find some one then you ought to try holding one to him ,,,,,

Answer 8

i never thought about it like that but i have a 1 in a million guy i guess i have to say you need real patience i believe every one has been hurt in some way as well as everyone has hurt some one else but people honestly do change regardless of what some may say

Answer 9

Amen, girlfriend. I am afraid in my case you are preaching to the choir. Your observations have all been made by me, too. It also seems to me the few great ones out there are married to the witches of the world. Go figure.

Answer 10

i really don't know what makes so many ladies think this way us nice, decent and honest blokes can't be that rare, if you have been hurt by a male then I'm sorry this happened but please don't judge us all until you get to know us i promise we are not all alike