Ok well I have been married 6 years & I love my hubby alot but he has kinda cheated on my again. see he joined this adult dating website and was chatting with several girls and he went as far as sending pic back and forth with them( they never met). The bigggest problem I had with it was that I was 8 months pregnant and he was totally disgusted by me.( I only gained 20 lbs so I wasnt fat). well I just cought him doing it again......I dont know what to do. We only have sex once a week (thats all he wants but I want more)but here he is looking at porn online and chatting with other women. why dose he do this? what should I do?
2006-12-12 12:32:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel for you....I kinda went through the same thing......I stayed..........BIG MISTAKE! Hun, I would talk to him or just get out if you need to talk feel free to contact me (just view my 360 profile) Good luck
2006-12-12 12:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by its just me....♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, does it ever need help!!!! He kinda cheated? Honey, he did or he didn't. But joining a dating site is a very clear message -- he doesn't regard his marriage to you as a very high priority in his life. Look at my other answers to What is Marriage. From this note you have here, you really don't have a marriage. You had a sperm donor. And sweetie, computer porn is an addiction,dating sites used by married men indicate a sex addiction, neither of these are very successfully treated. . Addicts are already in a relationship -- it just isn't with a spouse. So again, read some of my answers to this problem. Then, sweetie, you need to decide how much of the time you wish to be by yourself.
2006-12-12 20:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, if he is talking to girls online, he's cheating.He sounds like a real ***.You need to tell him, this is not acceptable marriage behavior.If my hubby did that, he would get his butt kicked, or he would not be allowed on the puter.He is being disrespectful toward you.I don't know how he can sleep at night, knowing that this is really hurting you.And especially since you are carrying his child.I realize you love him, hon! But you better face some cold hard facts, if he is doing this while he is home with you, what do you think he does when he is by himself?? I hope you find the answers you are looking for?Good luck, sweetheart, and congrats on baby!
2006-12-12 20:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marna S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a porn/chatting addiction. He needs to see a counselor to overcome this addiction. You need to tell him to get counseling or get out. Go to counseling together as a couple because there may be some underlying issues. If after counseling he doesn't change (or if he refuses to change), leave him. I know many people are telling you to quit but if he admits he has a problem and gets the help he needs, you could salvage the marriage.
2006-12-12 20:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie your going through this but your husband is a pig. Right now you should be glowing with the beauty of pregnancy and your husband should be excited, that's life you both created, His and your child. The last thing on his mind should be porn sites and talking to other females. Porn is one thing, the looking, but the talking and taking part in an active dating website is really wrong. I wouldn't stand for this behavior. I would let him know he is married to you and if he wants to act single you can arrange it for him. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-12 20:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just doesn't want the same life you do. If he's not into your marriage mentally, its just a matter of time before he makes it physical. Call him out on it. The fact that he made you feel disgusting during your pregnancy is a BIG SIGN that its time to think about being a single mom. Your husband is supposed to be your best friend. He sounds like a controlling bully that is making you unhappy.
2006-12-12 20:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tina B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out and save your sanity. He's not worth it. He will realize what he did once he's gone. It's bad enough we feel horrible when pregnant in terms of having to watch weight gain and reflux, but to have a husband turned off by you is even worse. Take your baby, find a new place, and start over. You will find happiness again. Good luck.
2006-12-12 22:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to have to tell you this, but the whole time I read your sad little story, it made me wonder how much brain you have. Wake up! Your husband is a slime and if you have to say "cheated on me again" it makes me wonder about your logic You should have divorced this man a long time ago...and the fact that you are asking complete strangers about such an obvious situation is pathetic. Get rid of him, and meet men who are more worth your time.
2006-12-12 20:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I had the same thing with an ex although i was not preggers. I think you both need to go to counseling or get yourself out of the relationship if he has no concern for your feelings. He might be doing this to look for greener grass. It is not your fault let him go!!!!
2006-12-12 20:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any man who is disgusted by his pregnant wife isn't a good man. Especially if he goes so far as to internet cheat on her.
I would skip the help and go straight to divorce, especially if you want more kids.
2006-12-12 20:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A married man like him chatting online with other woman is just trying to cheat. My ex-husband is one of them. He chat and meet them. This kind of married man is just stupid, they just don't know how to appreciated his own wife and never know the true meaning of marriage. You either divorce him or just let him play with those cheap woman...... Remember, we woman have to be strong and no matter what, we should not let this kind of man to ruin our life.
2006-12-12 20:51:47 · answer #11 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋