my new son is 12 days old, and i cannot get him to sleep in his own bed. i can get him to sleep in it for a few hours but then he wakes up and cries until i put him in the bed with me. i dont know how to get him to sleep in it all night. please help.
2006-12-12 12:08:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My first son, when he was a baby, never wanted to be held...so when my second son came along and wanted to be held I made the mistake of always holding him and letting him fall asleep in my arms....it was heaven.....now at four my first son who would cry himself to sleep goes to bed with no problem and my second son, who just turned two on Sunday, has to have my hold him or lay in bed with him so he will go to sleep....I say get some earplugs and let him cry so he will learn. to sooth himself to sleep ....but make sure he is dry , feed and safe first....I am not saying let him cry so much he is sick but give yourself a break and go outside for a break if you have to. Good Luck and remember that it DOES get better and YOU will sleep through the night soon enough also.
The hardest thing for me was that if he was crying I felt I had to fix it.......I finally understood that sometimes baby will just cry cuz thats what babies do and you CANT fix it. You are not a bad person if he cries.
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2006-12-12 13:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 12 days old your baby will be getting up to eat in the night. Every few hours. There is a sleeping cycle that you can put your baby on so that the baby's schedule can work with you. It can be time quit nicely and if you get into a route now it will be better later. The more you think about what you want and watch the timing you can get the sleeping in bed down easily. Blessing. P.S. Remember he is use to hearing your heart beat all of the time.
2006-12-12 12:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by teacupreader4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a 12 day old baby usually does not sleep very much through the night. It is a bad idea to get him used to sleeping in your bed, because thats the only place he is going to want to sleep, and it will get worse once he grows. Your just gonna have to bite the bullet and be woke up many times during the night, but dont worry once he gets older he will not get up as much and eventually will sleep through the night. Good luck to you.
2006-12-12 13:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 14:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies don't sleep thru the night at 12 days old. They need you, they need to eat, they need their diapers changed and their sleep cycle is all messed up.
You can get him when he cries, try giving him his bottle or nursing him in a rocking chair. Rock him gently untill he falls back to sleep and quietly lay him down. He will wake up a few hours after that, to eat again.
Remember, it was only 12 days ago that your baby was in the safest place on earth, the only place he's ever known, where he was warm and full and most importantly close to YOU. He's just not sure what's going on yet. They say babies don't even know that they're not attached to you until they're six months old.
I know you're tired, but give it time, and it will all be ok.
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2006-12-12 12:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
YIKEESSS...I am having some horrific flashbacks of my own experiences with my daughter when she was that small. She wouldn't do a crib...a bassinet....or even one of those co-sleepers that fit up against your bed.
As she got older, we attempted the crying it out thing (I think 12 days is a little too young for that) and that didn't even work. My daughter was just sooooo head-strong and nothing...NOTHING worked.
And guess where she is today??? At 2 years old...in our bed. UGH. I hate it. She will sleep in her toddler bed (next to our bed) almost all night, but she won't go to bed unless you are there, too.
If it is light-sleeper issue, you could try white noise in the background (a fan or something) to see if it drowns out other noises and has a soothing thing for him.....but I will be watching for sleep solutions here because NOTHING worked for us....
Books we used : No Cry Sleep Solution and the other one that talks about Crying it Out. Bagged them. Nothing worked.
2006-12-12 12:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by retrowfmk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 12 days old.
My husband and I let our daughter sleep in our room until she was 2 months old. Sometimes she slept in our bed, and sometimes she slept in a bassinet in our room.
Imagine hearing a certain sound everyday and night for 9 months, and then suddenly having that sound gone. It would be driving you crazy, and if you don't understand why it is gone, it could be very scary. Well, your son is experiencing that - sort of. Allowing him to sleep in your bed for a week or two will not scar him, and then move him to a seperate bed in your room. From there, it is the crib in his room. You can't develop a bad habit before three months, so spending the first month around you will not harm him at all.
Our daughter slept in our room for the first two months of her life. She is now 16 months old, and sound asleep in her own room and crib. She has no ill effects, and sleeps a normal pattern for one of her age.
Good luck!!
2006-12-12 12:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's only 12 days old...let him sleep with you if you feel comfortable. You can sleep train him into his own crib in a few months. At this young age....do whatever works...trust me, you'll be thankful. If you really can't have him sleep in bed with you, put a worn t-shirt of yours in his crib with him this way he still smells you and some heart beat sounds or white noise ? Good Luck. At this age, he's waking to feed. Be lucky he sleeps a few hours at a time, it will get better.
My son slept in a bassinet in our room for 2 months, and now 10 months, sleeps all night in his crib/in his room. Sometimes he would sleep in the bassinet, and sometimes I would just lay him in my bed if he fell asleep nursing, whatever works for you. Good Luck.
2006-12-12 14:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 12 days old I would put the baby in a small basket in or right next to my bed, not in another room
if his bed is in your room, and he still cries, then I would make sure he is warm enough and then put a ticktock clock in the bed with him, he misses your warmth and your heartbeat
2006-12-12 13:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by stinapope 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is used to being with you ...he has been for 9 months. So it will take some time & you will lose sleep. Just part of being a mommy.
2006-12-12 12:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋