My mom picked me up 3 hours late 2day from school with no phone call or heads up. And I'm stilll mad at her for not appoligising, but I need her help with homework. And it's hard to concentrate when I feel so upset.
2006-12-12 11:59:16 · 19 answers · asked by geminiblonde123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why still be mad=its a waste of your energy and it wont change anything,I'd just go up to her and say "can we forget about today-I really need your help" then later explain that you wouldnt be so angry if she could give you some warning next time
2006-12-12 12:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad used to do that to my friend and I all the time. I just got used to it I guess. Her parents didn't get upset because when it was her dad's turn he did the same thing. Not all of us have parents who ever apologize for anything. So, well you're young and if your mom loves you and doesn't abuse you and feeds and houses you - she's not all bad right? Sometimes you have to forgive them for not apologizing even though that seems really silly. Just say "mom you know I was really angry that you picked me up so late without calling or letting me know what was happening. You probably had a good reason for doing that but it did make me mad. I want you to know that I forgive you for that." If you're not used to conversations like that - you might throw her for a loop but she'll really think about it next time this could happen - I think. Well at least it's something you can try and you'll be able to feel better and get help with your homework.
2006-12-12 20:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound young and so many times we all have learned (me to many times) that you have to be the bigger person and go take the first step especially when it is family. Does your mom even know you are mad at her for this? If so then she most likely was late for a reason and she can't or doesn't want to share that with you right now but later might do so. You never know she might have been having a very bad day as do most mothers do on a daily basis. I suggest this....if you both were heated about this at one point then you go to her and say your sorry for getting upset with you and you blame it on a bad day and then after she then tells you she is sorry for why she was late then I bet the rest (which you might just not want to hear) as to why she was late will all come out, then say now that that is out of the way I have more important things I need to discuss like my homework.
You will have to go to your mother so many times later in life with your own problems and this really is not a problem. This is a mole hill compared to the moutains you will face in your life and so many times your mother (which I no longer have the privledge of having-mine is deceased) will come to your rescue, you might not believe it now, but it true. Tell her you love her TODAY because tomorrow is not guaranteed.
2006-12-12 20:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jacky M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 3 hours late.. you have every right to be upset..and not receive an apology? I would approach her (but not in a very mad way) about this and explain to her how you felt standing there waiting for her, and calmly ask her how she would feel under the same circumstances, if the shoe was on the other foot.
If you don't get a good response, talk to your Dad or another relative about this.
2006-12-12 20:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by StantheMan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset too. I normally wouldn't say anything about the fight. I would just go up to her with your homework and simply say, "I could use your help with this if you don't mind." If she feels she wants to apologize then let her and continue on with the homework don't go and say how she should of been there or called. Let it be.
2006-12-12 20:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to go and sit down with her and talk to her about it. It may feel awkward but once the words start coming you will feel much better. Tell her how it felt for you when she was so late picking you up.
2006-12-12 20:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by medicswife23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is hear her out, chances are there's a good reason for being soooo late and if she don't have a good reason I'm sure you can find a homework help website, the Internet has just about everything else on it.
2006-12-12 20:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by jordanfamily45 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its really upsetting when ur mum doesn't talk to u becuase u can't tell her that everything is going wrong or u need some advice. I have never had a mum. All i haveleft of her is a necklace. So i think u need to make up as fast as u can. Talk it out cos u might think wat would happen if i never had a mum to look up 2.
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best of luck
2006-12-12 20:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time everything will be fine turst me when that person calms down than go to them and duss the issue without fighting and solve it as well but remmber do not use a bad ton voice use calm words when u speck and no talk back listion to what the other person has to say as well
2006-12-12 20:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by shortlittlemama03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you should ask her why she picked you up so late just to get the frustation off your chest cause it might be a good reason then just go straight into asking her about your homework to avoid akward silences
2006-12-12 20:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋