My wife used to love wearing lingerie, stockings and high heels but now finds if I ever mention it it becomes a taboo subject and she refuses to discuss it ?
We love each other but this matter is non-negotiable
2006-12-12 11:55:25 · 14 answers · asked by raythecat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmm. Taboo subjects that absolutely can't be discussed no matter what? Personally, I would keep at that like a Jack Russell that's smelt a rat in a barn. She won't like that treatment. You just have to explain how important is for you to know what the problem is.
But expect the reason to be either (1) incomprehensible to you or (2) large, and possibly disruptive in your relationship.
When you get the answer, you will still have lots of work to do.
2006-12-12 12:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would surprise her with a trip out shopping. Tell her to get dressed up, (wear a dress & heels) you're taking her out. Then take her to the lingerie store. Help her pick out some hot little numbers. Maybe you can join her in the dressing room. Have her leave the store wearing her new lingerie, but not the panties! Then take her for a pair of CFM pumps, or sandals. You know, the REAL hot looking ones. Sit across from her, so you can see her trying on the shoes! You'll get an eye full, and she'll get totally aroused too. I doubt you'll make it to the car! When you go home, light some candles and oil her up with scented oil. GIve her the massage of her dreams! Later, after the two of you share a VERY soapy shower, ask her to model anything she may have which you haven't seen--if you still have the stamina. If not, say, too bad you don't have a vibrator to play with. She may pull it out for you to use on her. Sex can be so much fun! Go for it!
2016-05-23 16:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me ask you some questions ok! How long have you been married? do you have any kids? And has there been any personal problems w/ you guys, like have you cheated on her? I have been married 8 years we have 4 kids between the both of us he has custody of his 2 i have custody of my one, and we had one together..And for the longest time i felt very insecure after i had our youngest..Even when my husband would tell me how beautiful and sexy i was if a girl does not believe that herself it wont make her feel any better..So you can talk untill your blue. The reason i asked if you ever cheated is because if you did, she definately is going to be insecure..But, first thing first ask her! "baby why dont you like to wear these anymore? I think your so beautiful in them Have i said or done something to make you feel insecure in them? If you dont ask her then you will never know, and then your really just beating a dead horse..I hope i have helped a little! Good luck
2006-12-12 12:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question I would like to ask you is..What if she dont wear lingeries, stockings and heels anymore will you still love her as she is? Haha.. it is simple isnt it? If she is willing to discuss about it it is probably something that she used to do or wear but now it seems very impratical to do or wear at this season of time. But if she doesn't want to disscuss about it; it is probably it is hurts, unappreciated, resentment...etc. (FYI I used to wear that but it is no longer something I always do especially for heels -if you do have kids btw I always dislikes stocking but I am willing to talk about it unless I'd bear resentment I would not want to talk about it.) See?
I believe yr wife is having some kind of battles on low self esteem, feel unworthy, unloved, unattractive, unappreciated, felt out. It is not whether she is attractive (imaginary or real) or not? Something must have happened before all these... it is usually past that is the roadblocked for being open. I am not saying that it is u that had not shower her love, being wanted, or needed it could be from past as a child or it could also be you are lacking or missing some things that you didn't see or notice. You can always speaks something nice of her and compliment her without of lying. Noted what is new a hairdo? or ideas? Small gesture as love, affirmation, encouragement, compliment and appreciation.
I believe all these areas needed to look into before you look at why she dislike lingerie. Trust me No Women will not like to wear lingerie for her man she loved unless there is hurts that hinders. Even the most reserved women would so love to see her man to look @ her in such as she is so desirable and attractive to him ya? (women out there agreed not?) As for myself I desire to be all that my man I loved would long for? (Haha.. but I am still quite far from that I think :D) It is appreciation and love in two person communicating their love and like with understanding. Try not to demean one another even if it is not something u would agreed, instead try to compliment. That's the word but do it sincerely. God bless u!
2006-12-12 16:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Inspired 2 Excellence Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try with a counter that - Her Silence is neither acceptable nor negotiable either.
I know something of what you might be feeling.
By the way, you supply too little info for any kind of rational or constructive answer. There could be many reasons for Why ~ one of which could be 'her age' - as in 'menopause,' for example.
Best of luck.
Sash.
2006-12-12 14:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she lost her good self esteem. You should help her get it back. This happen to me too.........
I do not feel attractive any more either. I will not blame it on the marriage because it's not to blame. My husband stopped telling me the stuff I need to hear. Are you telling her?
2006-12-12 11:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be having an affair and could potentially be guilt ridden. You might want to ask her in a non confrontational way as to why she feels this way, perhaps even mention counseling. There might well be other underlying issues you are oblivious to.
2006-12-12 12:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There should be nothing you cannot discuss...even if she doesn't care to wear it, there shouldn't be any reason why she cannot tell you why she dislikes it now.
Why would she hide the reason?
2006-12-12 11:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you means she's going Commando? Good - it'll keep the flies off your dinner.
2006-12-12 12:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she just does not like the looks of it on you. Sorry I am a crossdresser and just had to do that.
2006-12-12 12:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋