It's me and my family is taking too personal, am I wrong for not wanting presents for my b-day?
2006-12-12 11:36:49 · 29 answers · asked by me me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if they feel that bad about it just let them at least give you a gift card or something.
your family is probably just the type who loke giving gifts, it makes them feel good to make someone else happy.
they probably feel like you don't care about them because you don't want anything from them (it doesn't have to be true, they probably just see it that way.)
it is definately not wrong to not want anything for your birthday, just remember, the most important holidasy is your own birthday. =)
2006-12-12 11:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean--I just don't like stuff and clutter, so getting b-day presents just means getting things that I'll keep in my closet for awhile and then give away.
Could you ask your family for a gift certificate for a fun experience, like a massage or a nice dinner? How about money towards a vacation? Or maybe a donation to your favorite charity?
2006-12-12 19:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're probably only upset because they already got things or had the perfect thing they were going to get you and they're disappointed you ruined their plans.
But no you're not wrong for not wanting presents. What you do if they do get you things and you really don't want them is sell them on ebay and get the money and then do whatever you want with the money or somehow give it back to them without them knowing.
2006-12-12 19:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Maybe it is just the way you put it across to them. Saying 'no' needs skill. People tend to take it negatively when you do not respond positively. Maybe your family thinks you belittled them by not accepting their presents? To them it may be an insult. Anyway, communication skill is needed to convey messages such as yours. Turn it around, say this: I don't want you guys to spend on me because I want to be just with you all and that is my best present.
2006-12-12 19:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Erm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A birthday is not about the presents, but if someone wants to get you a present, I wouldn't refuse. It may hurt their feelings and they are just trying to be thoughtful.
You could ask someone who insists on getting you a present to make a donation to a charity in your name.
2006-12-12 19:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now. You see now that people have bills, right? You understand people cant afford to buy you B-Day presents all the time. Grow up, this is not sweet 16.
2006-12-12 19:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but it may seem that you are inconsiderate, you can ask for something "from there hearts" or some money, and if you don't want the money donate it to charity, or keep it to save up for a car or something.
2006-12-12 19:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Purple Monkey Refridgerator! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't be mad, I might still get that person something little even though they said they didn't want anything. I know on my last birthday I told my husband that I didn't want anything.
2006-12-12 19:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by medicswife23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ure not wrong, but they probably already bought you presents, which could make them mad..
2006-12-12 19:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by SexyLilKara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that should be your decision. for a variety of reasons i don't think it should be celebrated but nobody seems to care. part of life is figuring out just who you are. oh, i see nothing wrong with giving/getting presents. just not for this.
2006-12-12 19:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋