What would you do?

Question

If you had a best friend, whom you had known since childhood confess to you that they were gay?

And that you were the first person they had ever told?

I agree with most of you who say that you should support your best friend no matter what. I've seen some people on here who seem so anti-gay that I think they would probably dump their best friend in an instant if they found out something like that. I guess the real question is to find out: What does that say about a person like that?

Answer 1

Be there for support if she is a "true" friend. Whether you agree or not.

Answer 2

What do you mean "what would you do?" What can you do and why does it matter to so many people what other people do in their bedroom. Would it be a shock if they told you they where heterosexual? You need to not be judgmental and love your friend the same as you did before you knew. About the only thing I have to say about any of it is why does ANYONE have to announce what sexual acts they prefer. I know I don't, the only way any one would know is if they have been intimate with me and even then they may not know for sure. Just something to think about.

Answer 3

I actually had the same thing happen to me.

I don't have any problems with gay friends. If my best friend was gay then I'm cool with that. Sometimes a gay person needs a straight person to confide in, someone they know who will not judge them, and just be there for support. She will hit some hard times and she will need you. Let her know that you and her are friends - - always.

You'll also have to let your friend know that you're 100% straight, and you are not interested in the least in gay fun and games. Don't let her drag you to gay parties, activities, etc.. By doing so you will be giving her mixed messages. You need to be true to who you are. You're not being judgmental, you're are just being who you are.

Answer 4

Been there, done that. Naturally, I was very accepting. I mean, how else would I act? I'd be nice if a total stranger told me that, much less an old friend. Of course, I'd figured out that my friend was gay ages ago, and didn't really need the big announcement, but I regarded it as a sign of trust.

Answer 5

Continue being their friend

Why change now, they have obviously been a good friend in every way that counts, so you should be grateful that they told you first. Just because they are gay, doesn't mean they wanna land you in the sack, it just shows you are a highly regarded friend in their eyes.

Be the same person you have been all along, and things Will be fine. If you act funny, you Will lose your friend, and in this day and age, good friends are hard to find. Just accept them for who they are.

Answer 6

i honestly don't understand why people all of a sudden dump friends who admit their sexuality.. they are still the same people.

what else are they gonna do?dump them if they don't like the same football team? dump them if they prefer pepsi instead of coke?

i think it's all about society brainwashing people into believing that there is only one so-called right way to live..

i don't have very many guy friends, but if one of them told me they were gay, i'd be happy and excited for him. and i'd tell him that i have some "curiousities" that i'd like to explore.. and who knows where things would go from there?

bottom line, i like to think i am a very open-minded and accepting person. i'll always love my friends no matter what. it's all about accepting a person unconditionally.. that's what true love, and for that matter, true friendship, is all about.

Answer 7

What I would do is accept her the way she is. Personally, I don't agree with that life style but I do have respect for people who either choose or feel like naturally its who they are. But the best thing you can do is understand and be there for her. Its what being a true friend is all about.....supporting your friends and being there for them. If she chose you to tell you first....it must be a big deal for her and it shows the trust that she has in you. Its hard enough accepting yourself when you know society is against you and can't accept you. All you can do is be there to give her your support.

Answer 8

Give them a BIG hug, kiss, and say I love no matter who you are, because you have always been and will be my friend. I accept you for who you are, the good as well as bad, unconditionally..

Trust me it will help, we always say we will be there for someone and most people don't fulfill that promise and the hug is important because people need that kind of emotional support and affection.

Answer 9

Me and Sam have been friends since we were little. I was the first person that he came out to. I was there when he told his parents too.
When he first told his parents that he was gay, they kicked him out and he had to live with me. I was still living with my parents, and our house doesn't have a spare bedroom, so he had to stay in my room with me for several monthes. It was kind of cramped shring my bed with a guy thats like six foot two, but he needed me and I'll always be there for him. Sam is just like a brother to me and I love him to peices! I'd never judge someone by their sexual orientation. Never.

Answer 10

This happened to me too. I supported and still support her in whatever makes her happy. We had an understanding that I was not "that way" and so she never crossed that line. If he/she's your best friend, then just do everything you can to make it comfortable for them to be able to come out and tell others.