I have nothing againts gays or anything
its just not normal for him being gay im mean
last year he was a normal boy and now hes gay??
what should i do? how to remove his gaydom?
or just leave him gay??
2006-12-12 11:01:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its you that needs the help, not him
Your love was conditional, and not based on who he is, but on some notion of what it takes to be lovable.
How very sad for you, and how terribly sad for him to see that your love all these years was a fraud, that you have betrayed him. You sit in judgment about what it is to be normal, but there is something quite abnormal to have this cold place in you.
Hopefully he will be able to move away from the toxic people in his life, find people to surround himself that love him for who he really is, not how they want him to be. Love that doesn't have qualifiers, no conditions, love that actually means something.
You made your choice, so you must live with the fact that he will always look upon you as someone never to trust, and as a sinister dark cloud, and trust me he will move away from the likes of you. It would be unhealthy for him to keep you n his life.
What a shame no where in your question did you say there was a possibility that it is you that needed help, and I will offer no advice for someone who values so little that which is truly important.
Shame on you.
2006-12-12 11:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 18⤊ 1⤋
Okay, he was gay a year ago, sorry to burst the bubble, but this isn't something that happens, it is something that is from the day someone is born. It is not something you can change, and by wanting to you are only going to make him feel bad, and possible resent you. For someone who has nothing against gays, well, I have to wonder why in the world you would want or think to change him. He's the same wonderful nephew he always was, and his sexual preferences should have no impact on how you feel towards him. Besides, really, what business is it of yours? Just do the same thing you'd do to any teenager, make sure he knows about protecting himself. You should go talk to someone to help resolve YOUR issues, not his, cuz honey, you are the one with the problem, not him. He's accepted himself, now you have to learn to accept him too.
2006-12-12 19:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He was in the closet earlier and every one pressumed that he was straight. If you do not have any thing against gay people, why do you want to "remove his gaydom"? It is not something you can control. It is something that one is born with. Just offer him an ear if asks for it. And you should get your self educated about human sexuality and see that it is a completely normal behavior for a minority of human adults.
2006-12-12 19:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Let him be. If he is happy, leave him the hell alone. You cannot remove homosexuality like it was a common virus. Its a natural thing.
He is just as normal now as he was before he came out.
Be happy for the person he is, not sad/angry for the life he has chosen to live. A gay that is open is better than a gay in fear of coming out.
2006-12-12 19:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by xsupergirl245x 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't "remove his gaydom". If you are confused about why he is homosexual, just ask him. Don't try to change him- being gay isn't like that. Since he;s so recently come out he probably really just needs your support and understanding.
2006-12-12 19:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
" How to remove his gaydom " ??????????????? Are you serious, lady ?? (Lmao)
Leave his 'gaydom' alone, and just show him your SUPPORT. You must know, that gays / lesbians are BORN that way... it's a FACT. You cant 'remove' "gayness", no matter how hard you try, or 'want' to. Sheeeeeesh !
2006-12-12 20:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by JSSK 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
auntie, he needs love and support from you! would you like it if you were born a certain way & people were trying to change you, telling you that you're wrong? he will find it hard enough dealing with other people's negative attitudes, but i'm sure that he would love it if his aunt, even if she is unsure about the whole thing, try to understand that he is still the same beautiful human being and could do with someone that he could come and talk to and feel comfortable around. you'll learn to accept him. at the end of the day he is never going to change. it's your choice...you either accept and respect the person he is or don't have him in your life as nobody needs someone negative draining them. just love him lady! he's still your cute little nephew ;)
2006-12-12 20:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by lj_likka 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you say you have "nothing" against gays, but yet you are asking this question. I don't understand. "how do you remove his gaydom"? you can't! Leave him be who he is.
2006-12-12 19:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by mom*2 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing against his being gay then leave him alone. Recently it's been a in fashion for younger teens to try both sexes. As long as they're using protection (because even though Mom thinks they're too young the kids don't) leave them be. if your nephew is gay, just love him for who he is and try and be non-judgemental of his choice. He's still the same boy you love. Blessings.
2006-12-12 19:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Who decided you were the Great Decider of what "normal" is? He's a living, breathing person who's finally found an identity... leave him be, and stop trying to make a square fit into a circle
2006-12-12 23:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it not normal for him to be gay? how does being gay not make him normal? how can you possibly remove his "gaydom"?
2006-12-12 20:00:36 · answer #11 · answered by D-Monster 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋