Okay, i am in Iraq, away from family, wife, all of that....i WANT to continue in my Walk with Him, but man, temptation is calling. Females become good friends, we share interests, laughs, touches, and it turns into a moment of tension where you know you both feel the same way, but also both want to do the right thing. What is the right thing? I mean I know what is the right thing, but man, we all have feelings and desires; from sexual to emotional to just needing somebody there with you who feels about you like you feel about them....okay, i'm off the box, and you will never hear THIS soldier get soft like that again, so take you shots now....what should i do???
2006-12-12 10:56:56 · 11 answers · asked by j-chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
aww! a soft solider! how sweet! i think that's cool that you're TRYING to do the right thing. of course it's hard, because even if you did something, who would know any different? (other than your conscious) only words of wisdom that I have for you, my brave solider, keep being strong! you'll have to dig deep, but of course, all that discipline that soldiers have will help you out. sure you may get blisters on your hands, but its better than doing what your thinking about doing. No shots here, solider! Hold onto and use that inner strength/discipline. Be the BEST that you can be!!
2006-12-12 11:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I am assuming that you love your wife and want her to be there for you when you return. You need to try communicating to your wife some of your frustrations...seek the help of friends that are not tempting you. You should run from temptation and not challenge it. Just remember whatever path you choose you will have to live with the consequences. I can't imagine what you are going through, but stay strong, maybe try a cold shower?, and above all God Bless
2006-12-12 19:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am sure women will tell you one thing but I will tell you the Truth.
I am no saint by any means. I have cheated and lived to regret it. Divorced now and knows how it feels to have her cheat. I was destroyed!
The question you need to ask is are you willing to live with the guilt, (both emotional and spiritual it sounds like) for a fling with someone because it is convenient at the time?
Are you willing to live every day not right with him or with your spouse? Are you willing to go to your grave with this lie?
Do you trust yourself and her not to get attached and want to go further?
My affair threatened to tell my wife.
Are you willing to crush your wife this way?
Bro, don't think she is not facing temptation also.
Personally I think going to war is different than other situations but the pain is no less.
2006-12-12 19:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in Iraq too and what I do to keep his desires at bay.....I put on little shows for him on webcam when we're chatting via instant messenger. I send him naughty pictures and I make him homemade movies of me masturbating, stripping for him, using a dildo.....anything to keep him from wanting someone else!
Your wife is at home awaiting your return, she's probably worried sick about your safety. How would you like it if she was getting close to another man? You're in Iraq....she needs some companionship too.
Remain faithful to her. She's your wife, remember your vows! It will all be worth it in the end when you return to her on your R&R or when you're home for good!!! The sex will be incredible!!!
2006-12-12 20:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by dallas_chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the trust, love, and respect for you wife close to your heart. She is waiting for your safe return. My husband is also in Iraq, so I know the temptation he has. We love each other, and together we will make it through this...listen to the good angel.
2006-12-12 19:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife enough(like you should)you can beat those''desires''.Just think of her and how u would feel if she had an affair or slept with some guy because she had ''desires''.I know it must be hard on u being away but imagine how hard it is on her.Be strong .Hope you get home safely!!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 19:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by aliyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your wife to be boinking someone else? I understand you need companionship. But, don't take it to far. It's easy to feel as if it's not real anymore being that far away from your wife. But when you go home will you be able to live with your decision?
2006-12-12 19:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by kayla0428 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't even want to think of an answer here. but my man is in Iraq and maybe this is why he is so close to his computer an keeps in such close contact with me. he is my heart and i would be so hurt if he turned to another woman so i know how your wife would feel for you to do this to her. be patient and wait for that very special home coming ahead of you!
2006-12-12 19:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, being away from home is hard. You are trying to cope as best you can with the stressful situations you are in. Too many married soldiers cheat on their spouse when they are away from home.
Please stay true to your wife. For your sake, for her sake, and for the sake of the other female you briefly considered. Respect yourself, your vows to your wife, and the oath to your country. You are an ambassador of our country, don't make us look bad.
Good luck. and stay strong.
2006-12-12 19:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know damn well what you should do! I'm sure you expect your wife to be faithful and you should give her that same courtesy. And if you don't....well I hope she finds out, empties all the money you made out of your account and leaves your sorry @ss!
2006-12-12 19:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋