ok i have this friend....and she like is all confused about her sexuality and all....and like i tend to come off as a ***** to her...because i kinda get grossed out about it....and feel as if she's always checking me out....even though like i know she probably isn't...but like she always asks me for advice....but like i don't know what to say because im not gay or anything....she like switches from bi to lesbian to bi again and then to straight and bi again...and now she thinks she's a lesbian...and i like just have no idea what to say to her....what can i say? i've never been in this situation before....what can i say to her to help her out and not be a *****?
2006-12-12 10:51:07 · 12 answers · asked by hottie555 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ok first of all im not trying to judge her....i am trying to be better....its not my fault if i feel weird. at least im not being a complete and utter b itch and just ignoring her...i need some advice to feel more comfortable with her so i can be a friend to her and help her out. i just want to know what i can say to her to help her out.
2006-12-12 11:00:50 · update #1
Clearly she is confused if she is wasting time on you. You are a b***h and she needs to run for the hills, and find someone who actually has a clue.
Boo on you
2006-12-16 09:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Top Hat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i know where you are coming from. It's hard to give advice on spmething you don't know much about. And it seem that your not fully comfortable talk about the issue which is okay. i think you need to first sit down and talk to her about the thought of her liking you. because if she does then your dealing with a whole different animal. dealing with that will get alot of worry off your mind and sets bountries
Once you get that answer you can grow from there. always be there for her and let her know that you care about her still. let her know that you are feeling awkward talking about it and the fact she can't make up her mind. but remember she is going through a hard time with this and sometime she may NEED to just talk to you. don't let this break up a friendship. i wish you well with this. let me know how it goes. good luck
2006-12-12 19:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that she is telling you about her changes in sexual preferences and her confusions is a sign that she trusts you and views you as a close friend.
as far as her checking you out, don't worry.. she knows you are straight and she won't put any moves on you as long as she values your friendship.
if she does appear to be staring at your "assets" try not to be freaked out. just take it as a compliment..
just do your best to be a kind and loving friend.. sounds like she needs all the friends she can get.
encorage her to do some serious soul searching and try to decide once and for all what her true feelings are.. sounds like she is bi and she just hasn't come to realize it yet..
anyway, good luck, and hope things work out for her
2006-12-12 19:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality can be very confusing for some people, and many people don't know what they are for quite a while. Be patient with her. Also, just because someone likes people of the same sex, doesn't mean they like everyone of the same sex. A word to the wise: don't be predjudiced, paranoid, or irrational.
2006-12-12 19:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Eravial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she's definately bisexual of course, cause she likes boys and girl, I'm not gay nor bisexual, but u shouldn't be grossed out at her, that is kinda bitchy and if she knows that you only like guys she'll respect that decision, if she's really your friend and if not, u set the record straight and tell her u don't get down like that, if she still tries to turn u out, well, tell her with some attitude!
2006-12-12 18:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like one confused little puppy.
You're straight and you're not wavering. Let her know that you're not interested in participating in any gay fun and games. Let her know that you like being her friend, but when she's around you, then you will be focused on straight stuff. Not because you're being judgemental, you're just being true to yourself, and to who you are.
You might find that she will lean on you as her supporting pillar to the straight life.
2006-12-12 19:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should get off your superiority high horse and be a FRIEND instead of a JUDGE.
2006-12-12 18:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should stop saying LIKE so much, and stop being an @sshole and be a friend instead.
2006-12-12 18:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by ~?~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
like, oh my god, you are like a total immature loser....like, what is your problem. You like totally need to like grow up.
Do her a favor and leave her alone! She doesn't need "friends" like you
(and do us a favor and learn how to talk normally!)
2006-12-12 18:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just be a friend, if you even are? And stop judging her!!!
2006-12-12 18:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Noclue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋