ok i was sitting around the house all day today while my bf was watching tv. we work full time jobs but right now is our off time for two months,, so we were doing things like going here and ysetserday we wen to the aquarium and i am so tierd today, well he says that hes going to wash the dishes and i say no thats ok just leave it alone , and im not trying to be controlling but he keeps insiting to help and when he strted to clean ...i got mad and said no i can do it its okay and he got mad tooo!! i dont know what to do he keeps whanting to clean it when its my day to rest and i didnt whant him to. y dont he listen and prevent the argument from happening?? i give up he never listnes to me what do i do?? and when he dont say nothing about it how do i know that he whants me to clean it?? help!!
2006-12-12 10:48:12 · 11 answers · asked by chika_cherry_cola007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is only trying to help!!!!If he wanted you to clean he will tell you!He cleans on your day off is to let you rest!
2006-12-12 10:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are specific about i will get the dishes later, Well if he doesn't get the concept of later and thinks it should be done immediately then he owns it now. probably as a child this was done to him . mom says do the dish he didn't feel like it and instant she was there to clean asap. i am the same way not like him but you i will do it when i feel like it and they have adapted or chose to do it themselves. people are different clean what you see nesseary than well if he want something done let him own it. the relationship should be 60%20%60% then there are not worries the 20% leaves room for him to do some of what you do and some of what he does. be sure!
2006-12-15 05:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord girl' Ever heard that saying " Looking a gifted horse in the mouth' If he wants to help let him. Tell him to wash cloths or mop floors. If your the type that likes your kitchen a certain way tell him that the kitchen is yours any thing else he wants to do have at it. Pick your battles' Don't argue over stupid stuff.
2006-12-12 11:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 07:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It maybe that he is just bored and trying to help out. What is really wrong with that?? Alot of women would love to be in your shoes. ;) If you feel its your responsibility to do it why not do it together if he pitches in to help.
Dont be so hard on yourself or him..If you dont want to make an arguement over it then dont get so offended over his offer to help out. Its different if hes telling you to do it or making comments that it needs to be done. good luck
2006-12-12 10:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow my head is really spinning after that, ok well get a grip for a start. your just a little agitated coz you have been spending a lot of time together,
its nothing bad it works its self out
2006-12-12 10:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by sex_death_rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should pick your battles, you guys could clean up together and that make it a fun time for both, just lighten up a bit, he just wants to help so it's not so bad later
2006-12-12 10:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by aprilgirl86429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M SORRY,BUT WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU THAT SOMEONE HAS TO TELL YOU THAT YOU NEED TO CLEAN.ARE YOU A SLOB?MAYBE HE CAME FROM A FAMILY THAT IS NEAT AND CLEAN.
2006-12-12 10:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want someone to listen and obey u get a dog.
2006-12-12 10:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by bencilius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u let him do what he wants to do? I would be happy..
2006-12-12 10:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lemi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋