Which house for Christmas? My girlfriends parents or my family? Little complicated when you read details?
Me and my girlfriend have been together almost 6 months. She has some sort of prejudice against my family because most of them are older(over40) and not married. She is very close with her family and I with mine. She met my Mother under protest and is very unhappy about meeting the rest of my family(2 brothers and 3 sisters) We spent Thanksgiving at her parents house(slept over, 1.5 hours away) she says her family makes a big deal of Christmas eve and they exchange presents then and I said I would like to be with her on xmas eve and spend the night at her parents house. So I said my family does presents on Christmas day and I would like to be with them and I would like her to be there also. She does not want to travel back on xmas day so she says its okay if I do not want to spend the holiday with her but instead with my family. I feel like she is making me choose between my family or her, is this fair? What am I missing?
Thanks
2006-12-12 10:34:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
With my fiancee and I, we alternate.
last year, we spent thanksgiving with his parents, and christmas with mine.
this year, we spent thanksgiving with my parents, and christmas with his.
so if you did thanksgiving with hers, do christmas with yours. if she does not want to go, then go it alone.
next year, do thanksgiving with yours, and christmas with hers.
etc.
2006-12-12 12:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never but never, give up your family for a girl friend. She should be ashamed, you think enough of her to to give her and her family time, yet she can't do the same for you. That should be a red flag for you. If you really care about someone you want to make them happy also. Actually, if she was smart, she would admire the fact that you and your family are close because that usually is a sign on how you would also treat her. There is an old saying which I have found to be the truth. Watch how good a boy or man treats his mother and he will treat his wife the same way.
2016-05-23 15:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this woman the love of your life? girl friends come and go, but you family is family for life. I don't here to much about compromise there, my husband and I always spent christmas eve with my family, and christmas day with his.My parents have both passed away now and I wouldn't have missed it for the world
2006-12-12 11:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by kathy h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you do last year?
2006-12-12 10:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by element_op 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let her run your life. go to your family's house. she can't keep you from seeing your own family.
2006-12-12 10:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by hectik340013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋