My boyfriend invited me to his hometown for the weekend. I will be meeting his kids for the first time (daughter 24 and son 19). I'm afraid of there reactions towards me. He informed me that I would be the first women he's taken to meet his kids since his divorce 10 years ago. Should I worry?
2006-12-12 10:33:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it's easy enough for us to tell you not to worry, but ofcourse you would be nervous, anyone would be !! Just be yourself, don't put on any false front as your boyfriend obviously loves you just the way you are. I'm sure they will too, as long as they realize how happy you are making their father as that's what most important. Also they are older and should understand that you are not trying to replace their mother only make dad happy. After 10 yrs l think he has earned it. Best of luck
2006-12-12 12:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't meet them until you have dated for at least 6 months... I am a single Mom and I learned the hard way - trust me... And because you are so close in age to his oldest - go at this whole meeting thing slowly...
2016-05-23 15:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news here is they are grown, so you don't have the issue of small children who can't adapt being a big issue in your relationship. Plus they are old enough to understand that if their dad is happy that's all that matters. I agree, just be yourself. They should already know that you aren't trying to replace their mother and that you are not a threat.
2006-12-12 11:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would be worried sick but... In reality his kids are old enough to realize he needs companionship and want him to have some one. It might be a relief to them that he has some one. Your just not going to know till you meet them. Many of us are most afraid of the unknown so it might be a good idea to discuss with him how they feel about him being with another woman and try not to take it personal.
2006-12-12 10:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by letfreedomring 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much! It could go one of two ways:
They'll view you as trying to take the place of their mother and so resent you.
or
They'll be happy that Dad's finally moving on.
At first, you probably won't be able to tell which it's going to be, but to play it safe, I'd advise you to be yourself, be friendly(but not too friendly), and be respectful. Ask them about their plans; they're at that age where they're really just getting started with their lives. And remember, they're adults! They probably understand that their dad needs to move on and have companionship; they probably want him to anyway. You're going to be okay, good luck!
2006-12-12 10:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by LittleMissSunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be worried. just be yourself. Their dad likes you, obviously you are pretty special to him if you are the first woman that he's introduced to his children. It is normal to be anxious about it but you will be fine.
2006-12-12 10:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age they expect him to date. No worries.
2006-12-12 10:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.Relax and be yourself around them.I'm sure if he loves you they will love you as well.Good luck.
2006-12-12 10:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋