Should we stay friends or no?

Question

i have this friend who is really popular, but im a total loser, but not geek, just i dont have many friends. we are BEST FRIENDS. but sometimes she ditches me for the populars. and people always call her cell phone, and when she is online everybody in the grade talks to her. whenever she comes over and she signs online, and people start talking to her, i start to feel really sad, cuz nobody ever talks to me when i sign online. and she has been hanging out with me more and her popularity is draining because of me and i feel bad about that. she we still be friends and let her be popular? or should we stay friends and make her popularity go down the drain? please respond with advice, i really need it right now

Answer 1

You are not the blame for your friends unpopularity so stop taking the guilt trip. As a matter of fact stop taking the guilt trip on everything for the rest of your life. Guilt trips solve nothing and are a huge waste of time. Sounds like you need to do some work on yourself. Some how you need to learn how to stick your neck out there a little. You need one or two really good friends that you can trust no matter what. These are hard to find. But, when you do, you will have them for a life time. Stop putting yourself down. Don't go through life like that. You have some really good qualities I know you do cause everyone does. Ask yourself what these qualities are and then perfect them by using them often and each time you use them better them just a little more. A true friend is looking for someone who is honest, sincere, warm, and always has time for you. They are never jealous of your gifts but instead they are always happy for you. Concentrate on the quality of your friendships and not the quantity. You have to have the confidence to put yourself out there. You will get hurt from time to time because not everyone is going to appreciate friendships as much as you will. But, just remember, if you get hurt, pick yourself up by the boot straps and start all over again. Good luck and remember, never put yourself down again. Promise me. No one is better than you are but your no better than anyone else.

Answer 2

First of all, you are not a "loser" so stop telling yourself that. School can be very difficult for most of us but you can't allow other people to make you feel "inferior".

Your friend sounds like a good one, if she isn't worried about her "popularity" being "drained", why on earth should you?

You shouldn't compare yourself to anyone else (even your friend), we are all different. Some people are just naturally more outgoing than others.

You need to work on your insecurity and self-esteem so you aren't so "sad" over this. As important as it may seem to you now to be "popular", you will realize as you mature that there are other things that are much more important in life than popularity!

Enjoy your friend, don't worry so much about other people and what they might think! Good luck.

Answer 3

I would stay friends. She is choosing you and that is her choice. If she is less popular that is not your problem. I used to be sooo popular then I had an accident and looked really bad. For one year no one invited me to anything. Then when I looked better suddenly they were there. I realized I would rather have 1 good friend than 100 superficial ones. Maybe she thinks this way too. Try to get in a group or do things that might make you more friends and buold your confidence. If it seems that she is rude by ditching you etc, then you might want to rethink your relationship tho.

Answer 4

Popularity is VERY overrated.

If you think her popularity is becoming lower due to you, then those who think less of her are the ones with the problem and NOT you. Don't go making any grand sacrifices for her so as to salvage her popularity. Snooty arseholes who like to control popularity are everywhere, but true friends are often in short supply. She is very lucky to have you as her friend.

I am curious though, you said that when she comes over and she "signs online"...well, what in the hell is she doing on the computer when she comes over to see YOU? I suggest you find other ways to entertain her when she visits your home.

Answer 5

I really think you should make your own decision but I think her popularity should go down the drain because it's not nice for her to ditch you for the "populars".Make a good decision.

Answer 6

Why not hang out with the her friends too. I am sure you are not a looser, why would she still hang out with you? I am sure that just cause she is hanging out with you that people are going to like her less. That is just crazy. Try and have some confidence and talk to people and have fun. That is what being a teen is all about.

Answer 7

I believe you should stay friends with her. She isn't going to be popular forever... in the future she will need a true friend which sounds like you, you are willing to step aside so your friend can continue to be popular. It will change in the future.

Answer 8

well im popular and a friend got mad at me for the same thing ask her if u can go along with her when shes with her group thats how i made my friend popular good luck

Answer 9

belive it or not i feel the same way. what im trying to do is tell my friend what is going on and she is trying to help me get "popular". so just tell you friend what is going on, if you havent already, if she is your best friend she will understand.maybe she will do what my friend is doing. i dont really no what eles to tell you since i have the same problem. i hope what i did tell you will help a little!

ps i know i can't spell to save my life.hehehe

Answer 10

Lindsey, the different women did not replace her. She made that decision herself. human beings replace as they boost. If a pal starts off doing issues we do not do or would in no way do, you both end operating round with them or seek for suggestion from from them your problem (cussing, speaking sex) is something you're uncomfortable with and ought to she purely no longer attempt this once you're at the same time with her. i do not comprehend how old you're, even with the undeniable fact that it type of feels that both you and your pal are in a influential age. Your pal would purely be testing something new or she is replacing. speaking at the same time with her is your purely right decision so that you'll make a call. in no way dislike someone because they're dealing with something, you purely do not ought to loiter round them. i'd imagine after 11 years you need to sense mushy adequate to seek for suggestion from from her about it. good luck! i'm particular you'll make the right decision.