i'm about to have sex with my bf and i want to go on the pill but my mum desn't knowi have a bf what can i do

Question

well i've got no idea what i can do can i just go to the doctors and get the pill or do i need my mum permission i'm 16 years plzz help

Answer 1

It depends on the doctor, really. Some of them are very anti providing birth control to minors, especially without parental consent. If you go to a Planned Parenthood (check your local phone book) or other liberal family-planning organization, the doctors there will hook you up. It will cost around $25 US/month in most cases, so be prepared.

Even if you do get the pill, you should still use a condom every time you have sex. Backup birth control is very good to have, it will help you keep from getting an STD, and if you miss a pill, you are still protected. Also if your partner is young like you it'll probably help you to enjoy sex more since it'll help keep him from finishing too quickly.

Answer 2

Do you live in the UK? Doctors will give you the pill in the UK without telling your parents. However, I want to caution you, and I know you probably don't want to hear it.

You don't really know if you're ready for sex until it's happening. Your first experience of sex will affect how you feel about sex for years to come, it might set a pattern of mental reaction to sex that never gets broken. If your first experience is a good one then you will develop a health attitude to it, but the younger you are the more likely it is to be unpleasant. This has been proved from large-scale surveys. If you feel at all pressured into sex you are likely to be uncomfortable throughout the whole thing.

Also, please, please, when you do it, use a condom? If you think you will be having sex often, it would be a good precaution to go on the pill as well, but you need to use a condom too, as protection for both of you.

Finally, maybe your Mum wouldn't be able accept that you want to have sex and would absolutely stop you seeing your boyfriend, in which case I'm sorry for both of you. On the other hand, maybe she wouldn't react as badly as you might fear. I can't really advise you about that, because I had such a good realtionship with my Mum and she was very supportive, but I'm sure she would be upset not to know you had a boyfriend. Maybe she'd just want to meet him. Anyway, if you can possibly imagine telling her, I think you should.

Answer 3

Hi my name is Tammy first you need to be up front with your mother about your boyfriend you're 16 and thats about the right age for a young lady to start liking boys.I've a 16 year old daughter and we've a very close relationship that is might what your mother and you need. My daughter was talking to me about wanting on the pill,we talked about it and I drove her to our local health dept. and she went in and had a total exam by a female nurse while I sat out in the waiting room since she was 16 she had the right for me to stay with her or to wait. My daughter has been on the pills for almost three months and we've even gotten closer as mother & daughter. I really hope I've answed your questions I know beginning 16 is a tough age to go through but you'll make it. Plus there are alot of girls today that doesn't even think about getting on the pill they just go out there and have sex and then nine months later there is a baby that you've to care for the next 18 years so you're thinking smart. Take care

Answer 4

Your school probably forced you to take a "health class" in your freshman year. Talk to the teacher who taught it, and ask him/her to give you information about a local planned parenthood clinic. If you don't have a teacher or councilor to ask, then ask a friend who you know is having sex. If none of that works, try to find a clinic in the area by doing a web search.

When you go to the clinic, tell them you want to go on the pill, and they'll take your information and give you an insurance card and a perscription, which you can take to a pharmacy to get the pills.

Of course, if at all possible, you should talk to your parents about it. It'll be kind of annoying having to keep a secret, especially becasue you have to take the pill at about the same time every day. And keeping a secret as big as romance and sex will really take a toll on your relationship with your parents. Trust me, I know. So I'm gonna say again, if AT ALL possible, talk to them and just be out in the open. However, you weren't asking for advice, just information.

Good luck. And please make sure that you're really, really ready for sex and that the BF isn't just pushing you into it. But I want to commend you on making sure to be safe. That shows maturity and wisdom.

Answer 5

You called your mother mum, so I don't know if maybe you're in the UK. In the US, a minor can get any birth control without parent's knowledge or consent. Do a little Google searching to find out your laws.

I'm just concerned that you mom doesn't know you have a boyfriend. I don't want to do the big adult lecture, but just be sure you're ready for sex. Sex has big consequences. What if you got pregnant? Do you know what you'd do? What if you got an STD? Do you know where to go to get it taken care of? What if your bf breaks up with you after having sex? Can you handle that? If you can answer all of these questions confidently, you're probably ready for sex. But if you can't...and particularly that you're already having to sneak around...wait some more. There's nothing wrong with waiting!!!

Answer 6

You can go to planned parenthood. It's anonymous if you want. You can put a friend or close relative as your emergency contact. They provide you condoms and the option of birth control pills. They can run health tests (STDS, pregnancy), and they'll also educate you more on sex and STDS too. PP is just like a health clinic for those that are sexual active or are going to be.

I did the same thing when I was 16 and my parents didn't know... Planned Parenthood does keep things confidential.

Answer 7

Go to a doctor, or Planned Parenthood or a similar agency to get onto the pill. Doctors have an obligation to treat patients, regardless of their age. Whether or not you go on the pill, use a condom to protect yourself from STDs. If you can't go on the pill for some reason, ask about alternative forms of birth control, such as spermacides.

Answer 8

I don't know if you can get the pill where you live w/o parental permission...but am glad to know that you are trying to be responsible about having sex, and at least protect yourself from pregnancy (don't forget to use condoms as well, to help reduce the chance of acquiring an STD).

If there are family planning type clinics where you live, check with them about the possibility of getting on birth control...

Answer 9

You can get bc pills on your own but you'll have to pay for it out-of-pocket and they can be expensive.

You can use a spermicide and a condom which is pretty inexpensive.

But before you do this just consider what will happen to your life if for some reason whatever birth control method you use doesn't work.

You'll be a teenage Mom....just something to think about.

Answer 10

you don't need your mum's permission just your medicare card or then number off hers
just ensure you have $20-$30 a month to pay for it and back it up with other protection
plus talk your doc about the time you need to wait for it to become successful