We have been married about 7 months and get along great. If I decide I'd like to do something, he likes to tag along but every once in awhile a male friend (who's also married) will call him and ask him to go out and all of sudden he needs a "guys night".
I have more fun doing co-ed stuff with other couples than having "girls nights" and I feel a little left out when he has "guys nights". Advise from married people please!
2006-12-12 10:07:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
self centered... he is up to something. my husband has still never had a guys night out an we have been married for 26 yrs.! when something don't include the wives...we do our own thing. by his wishes to not go out without the other person. why look for trouble when you can avoid it?
2006-12-12 10:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well not everyone is the same. You can't be everything to your husband, and he may feel more at ease and able to relax with other males, and not so much couples. We are all multi-faceted and we function and behave differently in different surroundings and with different groups. Some people don't have an issue with just being with the spouse and/or other couples. Others need a balance that involves old friends, same sex friends, work friends vs. family or "friend friends". And having that time occasionally usually makes the other parts of life better. If you question him on it, it could pose other problems or resentment.
2006-12-12 10:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you I know what you mean. Except in my case the boys night out ends up me babysitting them all and making sure they all are picked up on the way and took home. I fell terrible being the only girl with all these guys. It makes me very mad!! I just would rather spend time with me and him sometimes but he is all about hanging out with the boys! I will get mad and let him have it every once in awhile but then we end up in the same place again. In my case my girls they are not many of. have their own lives going on and so I usually end up going with the boys. We have been married for 12 years. I think he is just goin through sometype of turning 30 crisis or something. Hoping it will end soon. He has only been this way for about 8 months or so! Good luck to you and when you find an answer I am sure every married woman wants to know!
2006-12-12 10:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by momdadand4kids 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I say sometimes when you are together every minute and every second, you grow into being tried and bored
around your spouse all the time.Which makes them start
to search for other things out there to get into. So let him have a little freedom or you will be sorry later. I myself feel one day out the week without your spouse following up behind you is a little breather for the two of you. you have to have that trust within. I think you don't want him out because you don't trust him all the way. In my marriage we have a good understanding, and trust. I don't mind him going out with the fellows every now and then, and the same with him. our rule is don't let the day
light catch you. let him go out. because if you don't it will
eventually start some confusion in you marriage. and by the way the more you and him miss each other the more the heart grows.
2006-12-12 10:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Leenie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you love someone and want to be with them all the time, everyone needs a little time and space. When he wants his boys night out, have a girls night out. If you make a big deal about it and give him a hard time every time he will resent you for it and that will cause more problems. Just done let it get out of hand. Good Luck.
2006-12-12 10:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Heather B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Been married 14 years. Men need a guys night out and not any of that co-ed stuff. You have to let your husband maintain healthy relationships outside of your marriage- all by himself. Don't you have girlfriends. If you do, does he get jealous? Because he sees the importance for you to develop outside of the marriage so that it will help the marriage.
2006-12-12 10:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for 5 years now. I love my girls nights out. It gives him a chance to be with the kids. As far as guys night out., he needs the time away too. In a marriage you have to learn to live seperate but together. You have to be your own person sometimes instead of always being a couple. If you dont let him go and be his own person, later he'll resent you for it. Just as you would resent him if he never let you go out and you were always home with the kids. Its just a balance sweety.
2006-12-12 12:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by wiredangel24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go out with the boyz! It's good to have SOME time away from each other. How you choose to spend it is, of course, up to you. Don't let him tag along when you do go out on your occasional "girlz night out" either. Switch on and off between you and him going out, you going out with your friends, him going out with his friends, and the two of you going out with other couples. I'm not all that crazy about all my man's friends, but every now and then I'll go out with him and his friends. (yeah, sometimes I find myself at the strip club with them) Still haven't got him to go out with me and my girl friends, but he'll come along when it's a co-ed mixed group. (some males, some females, some gay, some straight, some married, some single, and even some swingers) Don't let the his outings make you feel bad. I find it's the best time to go and do something you want while he's out. (get your nails done, go to the movies by yourself, etc)
2006-12-12 10:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've been married going on 2 years now, and i've learned that they don't need to be under us 24/7. we need to mingle with the girls every once in a while and do girl things and they need to be with the guys doing guy things. i used to feel left out, but i had to realize that we needed to give each other that little tiny bit of space. my husband goes out once a week with the guys and i do the same thing, even though we're not away from each other for a long time. for instance if i wanted to go shopping i would not take my husband. he can't stand it , so i would go with one of my girlfriends in stead. you get the idea. it'll all get better.
2006-12-12 10:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by chaun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we i am a devorcee but one of the reasons i devorced was because she made such a big problem of my boys night out. it was only once every two weeks and still seemed to much to ask. even in a great relationship u cant get or give all the things u want.
true most u should get from ur partner but other things u get from ur friends. i guess guys like to be among just guys sometimes also to do and to talk guy things.
if u let him he will feel much happier and that will reflect back to u i promise.
2006-12-12 10:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by bencilius 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just like women, the guys need a night to themselves and hang out with the guys. I see nothing wrong with that because even tho I love my husband, I want a little "me" time. He'll ask me if I want to go out and hang with him and his friends(most of his friends are single) and I'll go and sometimes I'm just to tired that I tell him go ahead without me, have a good time and come home safely. When I do go with him, I usually see my friends at the places where we go and I hang with them. I don't want to smother him and I feel that if he wants to hang out with the guys, I tell him to have a drink for me and tell the guys I said "what's up".
2006-12-12 10:32:42 · answer #11 · answered by Kimberley W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋