My husband teaches her son martial arts. The kid is a big brat, and my husband had to put him in time out during class last night. When we showed up with my daughter this morning, the provider said my daughter wasn't allowed to come anymore! So unprofessional. I'm writing her a letter and I want to make her feel bad for her inconsiderate behavior. May be childish on my part, but maybe will help my stress level if I put my feelings on paper!
2006-12-12 10:03:07 · 14 answers · asked by morenadancer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sounds like she is the one being childish. How dare she be so petty. Oh well, business is always politics. Find someone more trustworthy, reliable, and mentally stable to watch your precious baby girl.
2006-12-12 10:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by StormyC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and write your letter. Say that you found her behavior very unprofessional and inconsiderate, not to mention that you suspect her motivation was personal.
Just make sure to sound professional and considerate in your letter. Always be an example. ; )
If she is a registered child care provider, go ahead and report her. She is not allowed to reject your daughter for personal reasons. If this is just something she's operating out of her home, without official approval, well, how many kids does she have? Past a certain number you HAVE to register and be approved. Check that out and report her if she's over the limit.
That should make you feel better. Besides, it's the right thing to do whether she hurt your feelings or not. Just don't make it a personal attack on your part.
2006-12-12 18:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel. I have had so many bad things like this happen to me. After dealing with it for a while I realized that being verbal is only going to make you look foolish, and childish. Since your husband does teach martial arts you should just keep quiet about it.
Don't lower yourself to her level. Be glad that your daughter doesn't have anything to do with her anymore. Sometimes silence is worse than any spoken words, or in your case it may benefit you someday.
Her day will come. Then you can sit back and smile.
Everything happens for a reason. There is a reason this happened. Just be calm, and let it go.
2006-12-12 18:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by idontknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write her a complaint letter expressing to her that you feel it is unprofessional of her to not give you notice that you would be needing to find other child care, but be the bigger person here and keep your letter professional. Try not to get personal or let your emotions get the best of you. Sounds like she is childish and vindictive, and do you really want someone like that watching your child? She could have at least given you a week, I have a day care in my home and the few times I have asked someone to leave, I have always given them 2 weeks notice. If she's licensed as a day care facility you could always report her to the Better Business Bureau.
2006-12-12 19:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt there is anything you can do to her that will make her feel reprimanded- sounds like she is extremely childish herself. Besides, she might just try to get back at you again and you might start a viscous cycle that has no end, point, or true meaning. Best to just let it go.
And if her son is giving your husband a hard time behavior-wise, there is no need for you to have to deal with that drama. But be better and more mature than she was. If his mis-behavior continues, write her a note telling her that because of his misconduct your husband is giving notice that in so many days he will no longer give the boy lessons and go your separate ways.
2006-12-12 18:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by < Roger That > 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are appalled at her childish behavior, and that there is no difference between her and her spoiled little cry baby brat that your husband had to put in time out, and that if she would take the time out of her self consumed life to raise her children right he wouldent have been there, then say something like, i see where he gets it from. and that your child is better of not being around her dysfunctional family. tell her your going to tell the other parents about her behavior. screw making her feel guilty, make her cry. or you could just have your husband kick her ***, but remember if you write it she can take you to court, show it to the judge and sue you.
2006-12-12 18:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Matt E 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first you caould always have a problem with something like thins when you socialize with an employee(technically thats what she is) outa the work environment. try calling the people in charge of daycare subtsdizing and licencing (around here its pro action and dss) you can report her to them because if shes licenced she cant just not take her, in ny she MUST have a sub over 18 to fill in if for any reason she cant watch the kids some day(sick or appts....)if shes not licenced you probably shouldnt have been using her to begin with adn theres not too much you can do about it except tunrn her in to the person in charge of licncing daycares, (if you need to find out who it is call another licenced provider in your area and ask)
make sure you sign an agreement next time with the provider over how much you will pay and how much notice you will expect eachother to give
2006-12-12 18:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by lil_lizzy_b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like her son isn't the only one who is a brat! Your daughter is better off not being influenced by her. I wouldn't bother with a letter, she's not going to feel bad.
2006-12-12 18:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by eli_star 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go forward and do not look back. Spending time playing tap, tap and no taps back stoops to her level.
Be bigger and better than the problem itself and move forward. You will be just wasting your own precious time trying to spoil hers.
She apparently does a good enough job of that without you, so if you need some sort of satisfaction let it be just that.
Now go Play and Have Fun.
2006-12-12 18:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she just like a child-minder (ie not really official childcare) or is she registered, if she is registered I would make a complaint about her. If you haven't paid already, withhold pay. Send a smart, witty, 'im better than you' type of letter that makes her feel small and petty. THEN tell your husband to refuse to take her son for his martial arts training anymore if he comes back.
How rude of that woman shes made me mad.
2006-12-12 18:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋