I know there are different attachment styles.
Secure (the best)
Avoidant (distant/cold)
Anxious (clingy people)
Disorganized (a mix)
But why are some people so unresponsive to others? even when they are in a safe environment (eg. being looked after)
I have such a hard time relating to those people. I guess because I fall more into the anxious style lol but I always wondered why they are so unresponsive.
2006-12-12 10:02:10 · 7 answers · asked by Olga 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Good question. One of my old boyfriends was definitely that kind of person. If you almost get too close, then the emotional door slams shut. I think people like that are self protective. They're afraid of rejection, but if they never get attached, they can't be rejected.
2006-12-12 10:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to through out that attachment style list and get real. I am a schizoid personality type and I an indifferent to others/asocial. People all my life have been telling me utter nonsense about why I am this way, but not one social scientist has ever been close. I am an ethologist, who used to study wolf behavior and could see no parallel to my life in these very social creatures. I stopped trying to do that and began observing. We humans, like all animals, are not " types ", as your attachment list would imply, but variants. This is the truth I learned observing wolves. I am me and no amount of pschobabbelistic nonsense is going to change or define that. That is why I gave up on psychology many years ago and embraced the truth provided in.science.
2006-12-12 10:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a fascinating study called Psychology of the Seven Rays. According to this series of books each of us varies in rays influences. Ray 1 is the power person, they are often distant because people are not a priority to them. Ray 2 is the compassionate, open-hearted individual, often a teacher. Ray 3 is that of active intelligence, the person who actively creating/working etc and isn't as focused on people as the ray 2 type. The books are available online if you care to peruse them. It's the most logical system of explaining human behavior that I've found.
2006-12-12 10:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by CosmicKiss 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well some might act so b/c of several disappointments and the thought of being hurt agin makes them so insecure... but u brought up some good points, it actually starts at birth... temperment and such
2006-12-12 10:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
¤ courting status? - In courting ¤ Longest courting? - 3 years, Teenage love. he's married now, we are good pals ¤ Ever been cheated on? - so a techniques as i comprehend, not. ¤ have you ever cheated? - No and that i by no skill will.
2016-11-30 12:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEAR and INSECURITY could be the reason people are unresponsive. If not for fear, of rejection or incompatibility, we would all have many more friends, lovers and relationships.
2006-12-12 10:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I guess they ve been hurt in the past...and think that in that way can protect themseleves...but not true....they have to open their heart...to give love and then they will take.
2006-12-12 10:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋